MasterPain

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyhgkx6vkPM Here's my training dummy out in my garage. Please keep the words "chubby" and "balding" out of replies.

We call that Attack and Defend.

That's cool. Have fun on here.

123-42-2 Who are you? Mine's 1-1

Here's someone who better explains what I was talking about.

https://www.youtube.com/user/ProfessorChaos1982 Here's my channel. Not much on it, yet. I'll eventually put up some sparring and competition stuff. Maybe even some fights after I drop the necessary 30 pounds.

The grab is a good starting point. I've taken a lot of more traditional things like this and modified them to my liking. Some of the old one step type things became stop hits or simply reach out, grab their arm and pull them into a strike as opposed to block, grab, strike. That, and everything is modified for my being built like Gimli.

I've never heard of the spreading the fingers thing. I've always just taught to break the grip toward their thumb. Something for me to check out. Here's my thing with wrist grabs. They're part of threat display behavior. What we refer to as the "monkey dance." At least in the way you're talking about. It is possible that someone would grab you out of nowhere and be about to hit you with the other hand. In which case, yes take a solid stance and strike. But generally it's part of an escalating argument. You should have been in a decent stance already. Nothing obvious, but knees bent, one leg forward, and hands up and gesturing as you speak. You should appear to be appealing to reason, and you should be appealing to reason as well. If they try to grab you, tell them in no uncertain terms not to touch you, while refusing to let them get a grip. If in a crowd, start yelling for someone to call the cops. This can end a conflict and can help you in court if it does not. After this if they are still being grabby, it should be justifiable to make the first strike. Our formula is evade, stun, unbalance, and control. Tallgeese has a great article on it called principle based training.

Spare the rod and spoil the child's boxing skill?

Our usual method is grab the wrist, punch then in the face, kick them in the shin, punch them in the face, attempt lock, punch in face. It tends to be better as a disarm, the focus on the weapon hand helps facilitate the application.

Groinstrike used a kotegaeshi as a takedown grappling today. That's a great technique much maligned because of overly compliant ukes.

It's come to the point that when you tell a prospective student that your school is mainly self defense oriented, they automatically look at you with suspicion. Why? Many self defense schools show technique, have you practice on a compliant partner, and call it good. Some even have the uke add resistance, and then call it good. That should be just the beginning. The next step is to have the uke throw a random attack. Then you have to react with the appropriate response. Then have the uke feint before attacking. Now you have to deal with timing. Next try using what you've learned while sparring. Sparring not only tests and refines technique, it tests and refines you. Imagine a basketball coach teaching offense and not having someone actively play defense. The first game would be a travesty.

I'll just carry a cane and be good at whacking people with it. Later I'll claim not to remember doing so.

Hopefully by the time I'm 71 I'll have conquered my irrational fear of water.

1. True, Bjj is the best single groundfighting style there is. To be complete you need some ground and pound, which was really innovated by wrestlers more than anything early on. A couple things Royce and some of the wrestlers used to do that are useful,but not trained for sport anymore are headbutts from in someone's guard, and those nasty kidney chopping kicks from the bottom of the guard. Just something to do lightly sometimes when training to remember that they are there. 2. I'm reminded of Anthony from that OTHER forum at a challenge match with a kung fu guy. They was kung fu-ed for about a minute before finally getting a takedown and easily tapping the guy. They acted like this meant kung fu was crap. My impression was that he needed some grappling lessons, and Anthony needed to learn how to strike, because for the first minute his BJJ was useless. I always tell pure strikers they need at least basic grappling skill. It goes the other way too. A grappler can be knocked out. Here it is, I was wrong it ends with knees on the ground.3. Meeting for a fight with no rules is not a challenge match, it's a "hopefully" non-lethal duel. Everyone involved is guilty of at best a misdemeanor. While you may get by safely with people who do not train in an alive manner, telling any decent high school wrestler they can fight like it's real combat is a good way to end up blind. And for what? So you can show what a MAN you are? Or to say my style is the best? Sounds like Count Dante returned from the grave and turned grappler. Hmm, good movie idea. I get to play Count Dante.

4/19 More entries and entry-focused sparring.

You got beat in the kicking department, and some of your punches you really over-reached for. Other than that, great ring control. The person doing the chasing is usually the winner in my view, but I don't know the rules for this competition.

lots of shadowboxing this weekend 4/18 taught entry, clinch and striking with some light sparring

I don't know much about JJJ, so I can't say much about it. But I do feel that a good ground system is indispensable to a complete self defense system. For me it's BJJ, greco-roman, occasionally trained with strikes. Fights vary by situation, sometimes the ground is the perfect place to be, other times, as you say, it could get you stomped. Some people don't train ground fighting because they don't want to ground fight. Well, I don't want to fight at all, but I train to fight. My suggestion? Find a high level BJJ guy and crosstrain with him. You could both learn a lot.

This is strange for me to say, but I suggest you talk to your minister. Do your parents attend the same church? Forgiveness is a core belief in all major religions. And if you all share the same beliefs he may be able to help your family work through this. remember, "Love is patient, love is kind, love is long suffering." Forget where that was exactly, but point is, if your committed to this, prepare to suffer a while. At any rate be good to your parents.

ROFL Looks like a good movie Patrick...I'll go see it. You think that's something, yesterday I watched Street Fighter. Frank Dux beat up Gomez Adams.

If your parents can make you break up, "engaged" should not be in your vocabulary.

With the exception of cheating or emotional or physical abuse, relationships are not something you "screw up." Sometimes they simply don't work. Grow as your own person, learn from your mistakes, and let things come to you. Jump into things too fast and you'll find yourself with someone who is emotionally immature. Or worse yet, someone who realizes that you are emotionally immature and thereby easily controlled. Don't get into a legally binding social contract because all your friends are doing it. Jumping off a bridge could be preferable. This is coming from a person with a fear of water.

The only one I ever practice is Tensho.

Sometimes awesomeness is an action, and other times it's a state of being. Owning a Buster Sword helps.