This right here is great advice. It would be a poor reflection on the sensei and his students if a novice student was winning all the time. Right now, when sparring is still very new to you, no-one expects you to win. You don't need to win in training. Sparring is only a tool for practicing your techniques in a live format. I think a lot of people forget, senior students included, that unless you are in a competition scenario, sparring is practice time and you should be using it achieve little goals. Every bout or training session, pick out something small which you are going to work on. It could be side kicks, it could be using your angles more, to not get hit by Bob Smith's reverse punch or even just to use your left leg more this time. Then work on improving that during each spar. Doesn't matter if you get kicked in the head 20 times in the process or if you "lose" the fight overall, if you can come off the mat and say you've improved a little in your chosen area then that is a victory. Totally agree with you & sorry for being unclear, yesterday sparring wasn't competition it was training but i was lost (confused) with techinques. Thank you for your great advice specially the left leg one for sure I will try it next time