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Can't win them all. No student is going to succeed at everything and every time whenever it comes to the MA; be up front with your students. I've Senior Dan Ranked students that have not fully matured in their MA yet, but they will in time, and that's nothing to be ashamed of. With failure, comes success. They go hand in hand. Can't have one and not the other. It's how the CI address any failure about themselves. Can't help any student to understand how to deal with any failure if the CI can't deal with any of their own failures. Encourage the student that no matter what happens, the sun will rise and the new day will come no matter what. Comfort them in the best way you know during the transition from failure to success, which comes with training with a positive purpose. Teach them: >Be nice to yourself >Allow yourself to be sad >Remind yourself that everyone fails >Look for the lesson >What is now possible because you failed? >At least you did something >See failure as a step closer to success, not a step back >Use your dreams to re-energise you >Deal with your first reaction >Put it all in perspective >Don't compare yourself to others >Take positive next steps This might also help: >The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing >Failure is success if we learn from it >I have not failed >Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts >Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit

Not all black belts can teach. Problem lies within the CI. However, it's a two-way street, and both the CI and the student have to be accountable for the training. If the CI allows the laziness, then the CI best look in the mirror for both the problem and the answers. Teen get bored quick. If the CI likes the sound of their own voice, then any student loses interest, drive, and attentiveness necessary to train in the MA. If the problem lies within the student, then there's only so much that the CI can do. The CI can run the most exciting and educational and fun class on the planet earth, but if the student is lazy, then try to drive that laziness out in a positive manner. For example, end the dullness; more actions and far less chit chat. I've no problem with laziness because I just weed them out. I've not the time nor the inclination to succumb to their decision to be lazy. Then again, the lazy can remain a white belt until the cows can jump over the moon; their laziness is their choice, and that's the bed that they can lie in. Again, the floor will be unsympathetic to any lazy students, the same way that the floor will not tolerate the utterly incompetent CI. If the parent is forcing the student, then sit down with the parents to let them know that you've noticed those exact traits from both the student AND the parents. Advice the parents the possible consequences of unwanted behavior from them all. Not all black belts can teach!!

Doctors don't like it. However, they say that the delay isn't idea, nor is it avoidable; just need to secure all necessary doctors asap...the sooner the better. I'll be fine just as long as I'm seen by an Oncologist in an immediate proactivity.

The systemic bias is an human flaw because any biased approach creates the birth of limitations for both the style and for the practitioner. Blinder wearing MAists only see what they want to see, and this sets in motion the limitations of which oftentimes handcuffs the style and the practitioner. Imho!!

Any methods of learning should be entertained as to the many possibilities. Question was asked...IS IT OK WITH YOU...and for me, it's not ok, FOR ME. I'm thirsty for that human contact of training in the MA because to many unnoticed questions that are unanswered.

Well, usually I'm quite thorough with my investigations no matter the topic. Especially when my life depends on it. Seems that I dropped the wrecking ball...right on my head and foot. I'm suppose to have my 4th LEUPROLID shot this Friday on May 28th, 2021...suppose to. That, as well as, the Radiation treatments will have to be put on the back burner for a very quick pause. The medical insurance I once HAD when I lived in Texas, Molina, which pretty much paid for 90% of my medical bills for my treatments, isn't accepted in Nevada; Molina is only accepted in about 10 states; Nevada is not one of those states that accept Molina. So I left a great treatment plan and medical insurance in Texas, for what ended up being the unknown in Nevada. For 3 exhausting weeks, my wife and I searched for medical insurance, but to no avail. One phone call turned into another phone call, which turned into another suggested place to call. One application turned into one denial after another. I burned up my phone and laptop in the vigilant search for medical insurance. Adding me to my wife's medical insurance from her new job would cost us over $1K per month. I've always said, money over patient care!! Doctors have said since day one, I will die one day, but NOT from prostate cancer!! I was starting to see that prognosis is reverse. One turn down...one denial...one refusal...one dashed hope after another. I was quite overwhelmed, and the corner of not having any medical insurance that I was painting myself in was getting smaller my the day. I spoke with my Oncologist, and we had set a plan. I can, even though not highly recommended, delay treatment for a quite very short time. I needed to get my medical records asap, but that's what it is, and I also needed an appointment for a Medical Oncologist asap. At each failed attempt to secure medical insurance, I was starting to see a dismal short future for me without any hope. My roller-coaster ride that I was on caused me to bawl and bawl. At each and every dark turn, I'd drop to my knees and cry out loud for God's help. Medicaid denied me! SSDI is a long and winding road; a road that I needed instant assistance. I'm to young for Medicare. I was running out of places to turn to for any assistance. Social Workers that were sympathetic and heartfelt, and I appreciated their shoulder for me to cry upon. One Cancer Center can give me a price for a consultation of $10K...for just consultation. 3 weeks!! 3 sadden weeks!! 3 unproductive weeks!! Friday might be here, but Sunday's coming!! God answered our prayers!! Nevada Health Link Marketplace!! I qualify with my 2-3 Life Changing Events, Tax Credits, and with Gods blessings!! Yesterday night, my wife, Linda and I FINALLY secured Medical Insurance as well as Dental Insurance, and with our Tax Credits, my monthly cost is ZERO, and my co-pay is very low. The new Medical Insurance will bein on July 1st!! However, this is all depending on our Income Verification; which I don't foresee any difficulties. Everything is in God's hands!! So, now I wait for final approval, and then the Medical Insurance Cards, and then, visiting a new Oncologist so that my treatments can resume; the sooner the better!! Thank you, God!!

It's part of the fun... The best part! Oh yes indeed for sure!!

Sorry, Patrick!!

The next stage never ends. I wouldn't want it any other way.

Official?? Not in an all over general terms. Each style of the MA has their "official" Sai Kata's, and then there's the Governing Bodies "official" Sai Kata's, and then there's the CI/Dojo "official" Sai Kata's....or for anything, and not just the Sai. Many Dojo's CI allow their students at the brown belt, at the earliest, to choose a weapon to "create" their own weapons Kata. That is the means of gauging the maturity and understanding of the students acquiring knowledge and experience; maturity, being the key words here. To be for sure, the Sai Kata's have there origins, and I don't dispute that history whatsoever. Splintering off this way and that way, and over time, that which was clear and understood, has now slowly become blurred as to what's the correct answer for the correct question in anything the MA. Can it be that we'll never be satisfied with anything in the MA; we'll agree to disagree no matter what MA wise!!??

Oh yes indeed! It's very counterproductive when parents try to teach their children what I'm teaching their children. What's worse in this regards is that the parent is terrible at teaching what I'm teaching; thanks parents, but I got this, not you...not at all...not even close!! And yes indeed as well. Give the kid a break because there's not one student of any age anywhere on planet earth that gets it 100% correct; that's a delusion that needs to be forgotten. Another reminder parents...you're on the sidelines in any Testing Cycle, so if the foot's not perfect, them let ME worry about that, please and thank you!! Didn't the parent bring their child to YOU/ME/US for MA training??

Solid post!!

Solid post!! How the relevancy's used.

Congrats to your promotion, nunopicado; welcome back!! Please take care of your back; train at your pace, and by all means, don't overdue it.

I'm a blunt jerk when it comes to the spoiled parents, and I don't apologize for it. If parents just don't get it, I'll explain it to them in my professional way. My favorite saying is... "That's ok, your son/daughter gets it, which is really good because he/she is my student, and not you!!" As far as anything else a parent is confused about, I'll remind them that we all already had a nice long conversation in my office regarding many things, especially rank and the Testing Cycle and all before they joined. I invite or I don't invite, and parents have no say in that; I don't need and/or want their advice concerning MY students...yes that's their child, and I don't argue that, but anything and everything on my floor is under my total authority. They fail...practice more. They pass...they practiced a lot. If John and Mary Parent don't agree, then go somewhere else, as soon as possible! My dojo, my rules!! I've very little tolerance of parents who know better, but decide to play the "I forgot" card with me.

Judo!! Many fights end up on the ground, and if the ground is alien, then stay on your feet as long as you can. What do you mean to stay on my feet? Fight someone who lives on the ground, then, leave quietly because the grounds man/woman will get you on the ground!!

That's how it should be; confident women!! I spar the MAist in front of me, and not the man/woman. No favors, because that shortchanges the student(s) live training...I'm easy to all of my students, to a degree, but I will turn up the burners for reactions; can bring out the necessary confidence. Turn over enough rocks, that which one's seeking is revealed whether it's liked or not.

For me, it being relevant isn't relevant anymore whenever it comes to my martial art betterment. I train in Shindokan, more importantly, the MA because I want to, and not for any other reasons. If anything needs to be relevant, is my MA journey, and not the style of said MA. How can something be deemed irrelevant when it's still inside of ones heart of hearts...how can it be dead within me if it's alive to me...it's not dead, and if it's dead inside of me...who wrote the death certificate...anyone ever conduct an autopsy...anyone knows that when something is dead, that the next of kin must be notified...I'm the next of kin, and nobody notified me at all!! It's relevant to me, and if it's not to others, then they train their way and I'll train mine.

Congrats for the double promotion!! One is hard enough, but 2 is difficult across the board, doable, but the line can be quite thin some how and way in the long run.

Congrats to you and all for your promotions!! Hard work pays off in the long way. Training hard, training sincere, training for the knowledge always have their rewards.

I noticed my name's not listed above. lol

Very good stuff; can you please add something else, other than the video link, to the conversation. Thank you!!

Well, I've really no idea why Bruce added this Buddhist Eightfold Path to the Tao of JKD, other than his upbringing and all. This surely falls under the category of take what is useful and discard the rest, for me. For me, this excerpt does nothing much for my MA betterment. I suppose not everything ever written is to be understood and/or applied.

20 years is indeed a milestone, and can't be anything less than landmark; one I'm so proud to be part of. Joined: 23 Feb 2008 I've never ever once looked back in any regrets whatsoever. My beginnings here at KF were almost my endings. I've been very fortunate to have exchanged many things here at KF with many outstanding KF members. I've tried my very best to be that transparent with everyone, and not just here at KF; this is just how I am. KF came to me at a time when I needed it the most. I had been part of the SKKA hierarchy for quite some time, when Brain, bushido_man96, invited me to give KF a try. I did, just that because I saw KF as a place that I desperately needed to be a part of. You see, life is so lonely when you're part of the SKKA hierarchy, no matter how many are in the Student Body, and no matter how close I am to Soke and Dai-Soke. Egg shells can replace security in a heartbeat, whether one wants it to or not. The SKKA WAS everything to me in every shape, way, and/or form. However, the SKKA bubble is a very fragile thing, as is every MA Governing Body because ones own heart is often used as a stepping stone to the next rung in the hierarchy, and the SKKA was no exception. I was once the Kaicho, President, of the SKKA, the highest administrative position, and I can tell you without any reservation, that that position is the loneliest of them all. I climbed up the hierarchy slowly but surely, but that fragile bubble remained as a daily pressure cooker. I thought the bubble would pop at anytime, and sooner than later. Nonetheless, that proverbial needle never relaxed, but instead, day after day, that needle was going to burst the SKKA bubble. Then KF quickly became that escape from the SKKA bubble. I once again could breathe in and out painlessly, and not hyperventilating. So. I kept coming back, and I still keep coming back to KF because KF and its members are that proof that is on the floor, and I need them, more than they need me. Patrick exercised mentoring me for some reason, of which, I will never take his friendship, understanding, and leadership lightly. Neither would I take lightly that which the KF Staff has given me. Thank you all!! I have many KF members to thank in every shape, way, and/or form for all that you've each given to me. Some to the point, and some not so much to the point, but either way, I need that frankness daily. Brian, bushido_man96, became one of my closest friends here and away from KF; I own him a thanks that I might not be able to ever repay. Thank you, Brian!! We trained once, wish we had trained together more because Brian's a very solid MAist through and through!! I was able to have lunch with Ken, Bulltahr, and my wife, and we talked MA shop, and other things, as well!! Thank you, Ken!! I've enjoyed far more than I haven't while being here at KF, and God willing, I pray that I can enjoy even more here at KF, in any shape, way, and/or form. I'm no one special, just Bob who loves his family, yes, KF and it's members are part of my family, tries to do his best, and loves the MA with all of his heart and soul. Congrats KF for 20 years, and here's to 20 more years, God willing. Thank you all...I love you all!!

Congrats, Zaine; well deserved!!