This is one of the reasons why I do not like tournaments. Even as an official you deal with politics and those who discriminate....and there is nothing you can do about it except choose not to participate. Unfortunately, as a school owner, I am obligated to attend association events and support my students so I am unable to avoid the whole thing!
We basically use Olympic rules for sparring however the contact in class is kept in check-especially for the beginners. "Trembling shock" scores points-2 for the face/head, 1 for the body, hands to head/face are not allowed. Rounds are continuous unlike point sparring.
We have a convocation ceremony where the Master Instructor ties the belt on you-lots of bowing & ceremony. In previous systems there was a big ceremony after passing the test but after completing the probationary period you were just given your "official belt" in class. The head instructor then tied it on and took a stick to your rear end!
I am in agreement with all here...and hopefully just an isolated ego incident or since step sparring teaches us many things-including control- he may have not have learned it as of yet.
One of our precepts is "Teach and Grow"...a concept that some have trouble with but one that stirs the "martial soul". Sensei may have motives here other than free instructors.
Much respect to Tora Tanaka and Prof. Wally Jay! I am also partial to Ernie Reyes and Chuck Norris as I have studied both of their systems. Some lesser known, but equally as important, heros are Gary Bowers, Herb Nye, and Clyde Kanekoa.
Whether the instructor knows it or not he/she should be open to taking with parents about such things. Open communication makes for better resolutions down the road when students are held back from promotion or other situations arise.