Chivalry?

[ZR440]

Last month a very pretty young woman pulled open a door at the same time I was pushing to enter the store and she declined to go first even after I said "after you". That caught me off gaurd so much that I was wondering if the age before beauty thing applies to me now that I'm a third of a century old.

[Kirves]

Nah, she was just confused.

[ZR440]

Either that or she just had some basic manners.

 

Maybe she thought I was smokin hot and was flirting.

 

Nah, she was probably confused.

[Kirves]

[telsun]

It's hard to be chivalrous if people don't appreciate it...but I still do it because I love the feeling of helping someone, even just a little bit.

You should not expect to receive gratitude but you should be extremely grateful when you do. By expecting gratitude you are giving to receive. You should give selflessly. I have something in a book about this I will post some of it if I can find it.

 

But yes I do agree it is easier to be kind when it is appreciated.

[GrrrArg]

I think there's a difference between expecting gratitude and giving to recieve, you may expect gratitude but not be wholly surprised when you don't recieve any or you may expect gratitude and be offended when you don't recieve it. The later being an example of giving to recieve.

 

There's nothing wrong with expecting courtesy in kind it may just be a bit niave to think that everyone has manners simply because you do.

[Valithor]

Men will always be men, and women will always be women.. the sooner we stop trying to ignore that the better.

[GrrrArg]

But thats probably politically incorrect somehow - theres another phrase I really hate.

[Bart the Lover]

Valithor wrote:

Men will always be men, and women will always be women

 

Whatever that means.

[fireka]

it means just what it said, your attempting to ignore it, thats why you said 'whatever that means'. as if you dont know.