What would you do? if during class you noticed

[Patrick]

Hey advfhorn,

Thank you for posting. Here are some resources for you to check out:

http://sioutreach.org/learn/friends

http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinfo/problems/depression/self-harm.aspx (search "What can I do if I know someone who self-harms?" - it's about half-way down the page)

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/cutting-and-self-harm.htm#helping

I would read through them and use them to guide you. You can only do the best you can. The weight of the world doesn't fall squarely on your shoulders. You are not responsible for them. You are just a person trying to help.

These types of situations can be difficult, and different people will respond to different approaches. It's not a one-size-fits-all type of thing. You can't make assumptions - about the person, their parents, their instructor, etc. - you can only approach it in an open-minded way and, again, do your best.

Good luck.

It's interesting to see the different attitudes towards this problem, I would expect an "old-school" Sensei to just tell the parents and be done with it...

No one in this thread has expressed that sentiment. I would encourage everyone to assume best faith. Thank you.

Patrick

[advfhorn]

Thanks all. I am only a student at this dojo of 1.5 yrs and this teen is a white belt (5-6 months). I told my Sensei. She is a quiet girl who you would never expect. My Sensei was shocked when I told him who. He said he wanted to see for himself and he worked in a drill the following week (conditioning and checked our arms were red). The rest is up to him. He will do the right thing. I have heard the teen say she fights with Mom a lot and is bad in Math. When I was a rebellious teen I yelled, screamed and punched doors and walls when I was mad and smoked cigarettes. I guess ech generation has their own thing. Thanks all. I am real sensitive since my neighbors teen hung himself last sept. The impact of that will make me hug my own son everyday. I would want to know if it were my kid.

[Patrick]

Thank you for updating us, advfhorn. I'm glad that you informed your Sensei. It's a difficult position to be in but the fact that you care says a lot about you.

Thanks,

Patrick

[sensei8]

Hey advfhorn,

Thank you for posting. Here are some resources for you to check out:

http://sioutreach.org/learn/friends

http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinfo/problems/depression/self-harm.aspx (search "What can I do if I know someone who self-harms?" - it's about half-way down the page)

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/cutting-and-self-harm.htm#helping

I would read through them and use them to guide you. You can only do the best you can. The weight of the world doesn't fall squarely on your shoulders. You are not responsible for them. You are just a person trying to help.

These types of situations can be difficult, and different people will respond to different approaches. It's not a one-size-fits-all type of thing. You can't make assumptions - about the person, their parents, their instructor, etc. - you can only approach it in an open-minded way and, again, do your best.

Good luck.

It's interesting to see the different attitudes towards this problem, I would expect an "old-school" Sensei to just tell the parents and be done with it...

No one in this thread has expressed that sentiment. I would encourage everyone to assume best faith. Thank you.

Patrick

Solid post!!

[sensei8]

Thanks all. I am only a student at this dojo of 1.5 yrs and this teen is a white belt (5-6 months). I told my Sensei. She is a quiet girl who you would never expect. My Sensei was shocked when I told him who. He said he wanted to see for himself and he worked in a drill the following week (conditioning and checked our arms were red). The rest is up to him. He will do the right thing. I have heard the teen say she fights with Mom a lot and is bad in Math. When I was a rebellious teen I yelled, screamed and punched doors and walls when I was mad and smoked cigarettes. I guess ech generation has their own thing. Thanks all. I am real sensitive since my neighbors teen hung himself last sept. The impact of that will make me hug my own son everyday. I would want to know if it were my kid.

Glad you did what you did...thank you! As Patrick said, it does speak a lot about you!!