Letting Go

[lowereastside]

sensei8 said "Letting go here means about the same thing as when a parent(s) lets their child/children go; leaving the house on their own."

Very Well Said -

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[Lupin1]

What about when your former student is going off and starting their own school? Do you ever feel weird about him/her out there teaching the things you taught him/her to others? Like they're peddling your product? How does that work?

[The Greatest Disciple]

This shouldn't be a discussion, because the answer is clearly when you are dead. There is always something more they can learn from you, and you from them.

[BlueWaveKarate]

From the moment they first walk into the classroom.

[Harlan]

Good reply.

Ditto.

From the moment they first walk into the classroom.

[sensei8]

What about when your former student is going off and starting their own school?

That's a proud moment for me. Why? Well, that IS the evolution of my students. From 'nest' one must 'fly'!! That student isn't gone because that same student will be still be learning from me; this is a beautiful thing.

Do you ever feel weird about him/her out there teaching the things you taught him/her to others?

No! I feel proud! Why? That student WILL evolve because they will have grown in their knowledge and the like, and in that, they'll add themselves into and beyond what I've taught them.

Like they're peddling your product? How does that work?

For just over 3 decades I've not been peddling Shindokan, no, I've been teaching Shindokan. Again, it's the evolution of a student that is teaching in their own school. Shindokan isn't my product; it's theirs as well.

I learnt from Dai-Soke and Dai-Soke learnt from Soke, and in that, my student has learnt from me...THEN...they add their betterment to Shindokan, and in that, Shindokan will evolve. If my Dai-Soke had told me that I couldn't do this or that concerning Shindokan, I would've went..."Whatever!! You don't own me and you don't own Shindokan. It's a free gift".

Spread your wings and fly!!

[Nidan Melbourne]

It is totally up to the student. at my old dojo we had a 4th Dan training with us and has been a student of my old sensei since he began training

[CredoTe]

Well, I've been at it for 24+ years and I'm still with my CI... We're business partners in our dojo... So, I don't know. I would love to someday be out on my own, dojo speaking...

I think sensei8's comparison to children growing up and leaving home to experience life is probably the best analogy to this.