Loseing a fight to a girl.

[Pogo]

Guys hear me out.

How do you feel about loesing to a girl in a fight. (Sparing not street fighting) doesent it feel weird. Because you start to think to yourself what if it were a real fight would I lose give me your oppinions.

THIS IS NOT AN ATTACK ON ANY OF THE LADIES NOTHING THAT IS ERITTEN IS MENT TO BE SEXEST IN ANY WAY.

[germandrache]

i think you answered the question your self when you said you werent trying to be sexest, i beleive that women are great martial artist, but i do also believe that women are better at certian things than men. How exatly did you lose to her?

[Pogo]

Point sparing.

She just kept pumping her side kick

[Pogo]

And I out ranked her.

And on top of that she is vary LAZY.

[Pogo]

It hurt my PRIDE.

[elbows_and_knees]

No offense, but it sounds like the problem is you... she's lazy, you outrank her, and she kept using the same technique repeatedly. If she just kept pumping her sidekick, either time it and counter, or sidestep and counter.

As for your pride, forget about it. There is no room for pride in MA training. When your pride gets hurt, some people are less likely to try again whatever it was that hurt their pride the first time. Instead, look at it as a learning experience. She kicked your butt. Now, analyze what she did and what you didn't do. Next time you spar her, be more prepared.

Losing happens. I've lost to girls before as well. It just means that she may be more skilled than you thought she was - or you are less skilled than you thought you were. Either way, learn from it and keep training hard.

[ShotokanKid]

Girls always kick boys rear ends in sparring. They usually separate boys and girls at tournaments, but at every tournament I've been to that they didn't do that, the only boy-girl matches I saw, the girls won.

Edited June 28, 2005 by ShotokanKid

[Sasori_Te]

I don't see "boys" and "girls" in the dojo. I see students and training partners. Some happen to be male and the others female.

As for getting beaten. You know how she was beating you, why didn't you do something to counter it? Personally for someone pumping any kick, I'll time it, use my lead hand to push the kick past me and open up my opponents outside. A backfist to the back of the head usually does the trick from there.

[italian_guy]

No offense, but it sounds like the problem is you... she's lazy, you outrank her, and she kept using the same technique repeatedly. If she just kept pumping her sidekick, either time it and counter, or sidestep and counter.

As for your pride, forget about it. There is no room for pride in MA training. When your pride gets hurt, some people are less likely to try again whatever it was that hurt their pride the first time. Instead, look at it as a learning experience. She kicked your butt. Now, analyze what she did and what you didn't do. Next time you spar her, be more prepared.

Losing happens. I've lost to girls before as well. It just means that she may be more skilled than you thought she was - or you are less skilled than you thought you were. Either way, learn from it and keep training hard.

I fully agree with e&k; you learn 2 lessons from this experience:

Next time you should practice more the countering of the side kicks, and...

(and this is the hardest part) you should forget your pride.

Losing a sparring match is always a positive experience as you analyze the outcome in a self-critical manner.

[Sam]

i agree that it really shouldnt make a difference.... i get beaten relatively evenly boys and girls.... sparred against the womens world champion a couple of months back and got completely taken apart..... but was one of the best sparring experiences ive had....

I think its more important to see them as an opponent rather than gender.