Help! People dissing other dojos....

[P.A.L]

kill the man, marry the wife, end of story.

[krzychicano]

He's just a jerk and they are everywhere! Ignore him most people that tend to put other people down are people that have low self esteem and need a reason to glorify themselves.

[Grenadier]

Regardless of rank, we're all still students of the martial arts, and are continually learning, striving to attain mastery of one's self (which none of us will ever do).

 

You are not the problem. As long as you are happy with your dojo, and know that you are getting good training there that fits your needs, then that's what is most important.

 

I would wager that your friend's husband is somewhat insecure about himself, or possibly simply closed-minded. If he is closed-minded, then the only thing you can really do is play the waiting game, and hope that he one day wakes up to the fact that he's hurting his own development. If you've already visited his dojo, and if he refuses to come to yours, its simply not the right time.

 

In the meantime, if he continues to belittle others in that manner, it's OK to give him a gentle reminder that courtesy is one of the most important parts for all martial arts.

[cfr]

Someone else already mentioned it, offer to spar. Get on the inside and punch punch punch.

[pineapple]

One method of dealing with a person who belittles your style is to just tell him that he's right (even if you don't think so) and normally that person will discontinue his talk.

 

Another method of dealing with someone who tells you that their style is better is to ask them to teach you their style. (I do this all the time) Anyone is is genuine will teach you things which may benefit you and a lot of them will decline. (You figure)

[strangepair03]

I would invite him to class and let him try...as for the olympian sensei....point sparring is a game of tag,(not knocking his condition and dedication), ask him to try some good hard ippon or sanbon kumite....that may open his eyes....(or shut them a little!!!)