Do you believe in True Love?

[monkeygirl]

True love is hard to comment on right now. I'm going through a bad ordeal over a stupid guy...one of those situations where I should just bounce back and say "I'm stronger and smarter than this", but somehow just can't seem to. One of my guy friends, in an effort to console me, has informed me of The Way Guys Are (according to him). Basically it's the whole "guys are pigs, only after one thing with as many girls as they can get it from, anything else they say is an excuse to get what they want". So if that's true (which it probably isn't, but I have yet to personally see proof otherwise), where does that put true love?

[ramymensa]

Sometimes you can't stop some feelings, even if your conscience tells you they're not worth the effort. You've got to burn all the pain and reborn. And unfortunatelly nobody can help you against .. you

 

I remember when I parted ways with my ex I was feeling miserable though I was aware it was the best way, he was a jerk sometimes and I shouldn't care. Still I felt awful. I didn't want to go out and I had a friend who would take me and drag me outside. I knew what he was doing and thanked him for caring so much for a grumpy miserable girl

 

So live ... try to get into many activities and think about what happened. Don't blame yourself and always remember the break up HAD a reason. Think fondly of the good times, realistically about what went wrong and remember life is ahead of you. Don't pull yourself from the society and make sure you've got some good persons by your side ... I wish you all the best ..

 

And trust me true love can be found. I have a glimpse of it. And hope it's the real thing. And a minute of love is better than a lifetime without it

[GrrrArg]

True love is hard to comment on right now. I'm going through a bad ordeal over a stupid guy...one of those situations where I should just bounce back and say "I'm stronger and smarter than this", but somehow just can't seem to. One of my guy friends, in an effort to console me, has informed me of The Way Guys Are (according to him). Basically it's the whole "guys are pigs, only after one thing with as many girls as they can get it from, anything else they say is an excuse to get what they want". So if that's true (which it probably isn't, but I have yet to personally see proof otherwise), where does that put true love?

 

Thats only the guys who aren't worth bothering about.

"guys are pigs, only after one thing with as many girls as they can get it from, anything else they say is an excuse to get what they want"

Girls are just as bad for that as guys, but you hide it better cos society is harder on you about it.

 

Incidentaly I've heard that studies show that whilst guys are always getting wrong off their GFriends for looking at other girls, girls do it more, its just harder to spot because you have much better peripheral vision.

 

Which is also why it infuriates us when you say "oh have you seen what she is wearing!" closely follwed by "hey! don't look!". How can we see without looking!!!???

 

Rant over.

[monkeygirl]

Sometimes you can't stop some feelings, even if your conscience tells you they're not worth the effort. You've got to burn all the pain and reborn. And unfortunatelly nobody can help you against .. you

 

I remember when I parted ways with my ex I was feeling miserable though I was aware it was the best way, he was a jerk sometimes and I shouldn't care. Still I felt awful. I didn't want to go out and I had a friend who would take me and drag me outside. I knew what he was doing and thanked him for caring so much for a grumpy miserable girl

 

So live ... try to get into many activities and think about what happened. Don't blame yourself and always remember the break up HAD a reason. Think fondly of the good times, realistically about what went wrong and remember life is ahead of you. Don't pull yourself from the society and make sure you've got some good persons by your side ... I wish you all the best ..

 

And trust me true love can be found. I have a glimpse of it. And hope it's the real thing. And a minute of love is better than a lifetime without it

 

Thanks for the kind words, that really sums things up.

 

I guess the hardest part for me personally is wondering if he ever cared about me, if the time we spent together meant anything to him like it did to me. But, now that I think about it, I'm not really sure I want to be cared about by someone like him. I do, but I don't....story of this "relationship".

[battousai16]

^y'know, i hear ya. i recently found out that my aforementioned lady merely dated me at all to anger a guy i know who wasn't calling her (there's a bit of animosity between me and said guy). furthermore, she cheated with that said guy, and, not to long ago, while i was shopping for pants at a place where she happens to work, i recently found out that she was there, but ran in to the back and hid. so yeah, i'm getting that "did i matter at all?" feeling too. my advice to you? hang around with some really good buddies for awhile. that always cheers me up (when i hang around with my buddies; i don't get cheered up so much when you hang around with yours. well, you know, not to sound that i want you to be friendless and... ah, never mind, you know what i mean )

[aefibird]

(when i hang around with my buddies; i don't get cheered up so much when you hang around with yours. well, you know, not to sound that i want you to be friendless and... ah, never mind, you know what i mean )

 

battousai, the hole that you're in is getting bigger by the second....

 

It's a good job we know what you mean!

[battousai16]

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[GrrrArg]

Here bat, you can use my shovel.

[monkeygirl]

Yeah, hanging with friends always makes it better. Except for when one of them decides to get wise and start asking me questions about You Know Who (and I don't mean the J.K. Rowling kind).

 

To complicate matters more, I just got a letter and card today from an "old flame" I haven't spoken to in over a year. I guess you could say he was my first boyfriend, although we never went out or anything. Y'know, the awkward, actionless kind of "dojo dating" that occurs between two instructors of mutual feelings whose parents won't let them date yet...

 

So, as if I wasn't already confused enough over what to do with Mr. Cruise to the Bahamas (a.k.a. You-Know-Who), this guy comes along to heap on some more stress.

[DLopez]

Ahh youth...

 

Please don't take this the wrong way monkeygirl, but you're just too young to be worrying about true love and Mr. Right.

 

Slow down and enjoy life a little!