Great job!! First off, I'm also female, been practicing traditional okinawan kobudo for 4 years... my advice to you is: 1) Slow your form down. Focus on your imaginary target, break it down into segments, work that segment until you are comfortable, then add. 2) Really feel your foundation. I noticed you had your heel off the floor a few times, for good solid technique, use your body as you would in normal life. If proceeding forward in a walking gait, do you put your foot high in the air... try to get the natural motion of YOUR own body mechanics to propel you forward. 3) Find a bigger work space, outside in your yard, in your garage... with room to make mistakes, I train in my back yard, in a section that is obscured from neighbors. Work out all your kinks without the judgemental eyes and distractions. 4) Holding of your bo staff - visually split the bo into 3 sections, hold in the two sections that separate.... Equal parts. 5) Start small - learn some blocks, thrusting jabs, which then turns into free exercises. 6) Never give up... practice every day... check out youtube videos, specific ones to look for are, instructional kobudo bo videos... the fancy flair will come as you gain experience. The flair at the end.. .the figure eights... hold the bo staff not in the middle, hold it higher to your 1/3 location, and use your hips to govern the rotation of the bo... Wishing you much fun in your future training... remember there will be bad days and good days, just remember, you're out there giving it a go, and that's all that matters... Vicky