You make excellent points. I thank you for the blunt approach. I'm pretty sure that we are in a belt factory/McDojo. His regular classes contain some pretty poor students imho. (brown belts that have a hard time kicking above belt level for example) The belt colors are almost meaningless because of this (also imho) REalizing this...I sought any additional training for my son that was possible. Eventually the national team leader was there, saw my son and heard about him from his teachers. I of course was all over the idea of my son training with him. This instructor is a 10 time consecutive national champion. Both of his sons are national champions...and the older one teaches with him. The older son is the one that asks when me when my son is up for this that or the other belt so as to know when he'll be able to compete in _______________ tournament in _____________ location. Very personable, upbeat kid; the son is. He had a 1st degree black belt come into their regular sparring class and my son beat him. Since then he has been "enthusiastic" about advancement. (He is a 17 year old...even a disciplined one is prone to enthusiasm) He will make a A+++++++ instructor when the time has come though...no doubts Father is hard. Just hard. Not mean. Not unpleasant...hard. (His father before him was a karate sensi) They want the faster advancement. At his regular classes...my son is one of 20 - 25 kids...going through the drills. The only change that they make for him is that he fights higher belts...and against fighters a good 6" - a foot taller than him. (I personally don't see this helping as they tend to be slow and awkward imho) I do not want to have my son resent me at all! I train with him. I take him to the classes. I of course worry about the balance between enough, too much and not enough. I also feel awkward approaching my son's regular teacher about any of this really.