bushido_man96 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Just wanted to hit this up again. Please move back to Instructor Central Forum. https://www.haysgym.comhttp://www.sunyis.com/https://www.aikidoofnorthwestkansas.com
TreeKicker Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I have always been curios on peoples take, should martial art teachers avoid becoming friends with students since it may compromise the bond of the teacher-student or does it strengthen the relationship?By friends, I dont mean social function for the sake of the dojo and getting to know the students but rather hanging out on regular basis...would it be considered unprofessional?I ask because freddy roach has said that aside from dinner function he throws for his students he avoids becoming buddies since it may compromise his roll as a serious instructor.I don't think it is a good idea. It gives the appearance of favoritism and can easily lead to unprofessional behavior. A lot of the time, people are looking to you as a leader. They have friends already.
sensei8 Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 You might be correct; if there's truly no favoritism occurring then there's nothing to worry about. However, perception is a dangerous thing; perception is reality to the one perceiving. Avoid all signs of impropriety because your students deserve that. **Proof is on the floor!!!
FangPwnsAll7 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I think it is good for an instructor and student to be friends. Tang Soo Do - Red Belt (2nd GUP)
Harlan Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I know one case where a real relationship completely upended a dojo. Best to keep all students on the same level of relationship.You might be correct; if there's truly no favoritism occurring then there's nothing to worry about. However, perception is a dangerous thing; perception is reality to the one perceiving. Avoid all signs of impropriety because your students deserve that. Leaves fall.
ShotokanMaster Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 IN my DOjo everybody is friends with the sensies senpais and kohai and karatekas were like one big happy family What is a Instructor that is not friends with their student that is call big ego just because your an instructor your not friends with your students that is not right I love Shotokan Karate Do and American Kenpo Karate
lowereastside Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 It depends - Maybe not in the beginning - but as time goes by. My Kung Fu Teacher is one of my very good friends.
T3chnopsycho Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 A dojo, for me, should be a family. I cannot agree more.Me too. That's also how it works in my style. We call ourselves one big family. And you see that. After a Gasshuku we all go together to a restaurant to eat dinner and you sit right next to the sensei or shihan and drink your beer with them. ^^ Also from what I know some of the grown-ups repeatedly go to the pub together after the Friday-evening-training. I think being a family in a martial arts style is the best thing because everybody respects everybody else. Not because they are just a higher belt but also because you respect the person himself.CheersT3chnopsycho 1st Dan:It's not the top but just the point where you start to understand the true size of what you're doing.
Gomez77 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 I remember the day I went to enroll at my school,, and one of the first things my sensei said to me was "I don't do this to make friends" it has kinda stuck with me through the years especially when he tries to make small talk, I just don't know how to respond or react, I mean I say to myself does he really care what's going on or just saying this because he feels like he muat
Harkon72 Posted March 20, 2013 Posted March 20, 2013 Our Sensei calls us all "Brothers and Sisters" but has an equal relationship with all his students. He's my friend but on a professional and respectful level. Look to the far mountain and see all.
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