Breaking up is hard to do...new style or not?

[StrangeBacon]

.......one guy who has repeatedly made it clear that if I can't live up to the belt I should quit

Sounds to me like he should pay more mind to his own training and give his peers the respect they deserve, you earned that belt in the first place, no one can realistically expect you to perform to the same standard instantly after such an injury, these things take time.

Martial Arts above all else is a learning experience, you never stop learning no matter what grade you hold, and as long as you train hard and give it your all you cant ask for any more than that

[JohnASE]

...I don't know anybody there anymore other than one guy who has repeatedly made it clear that if I can't live up to the belt I should quit...

This is one of the most RIDICULOUS things I've ever read on any forum, and that's saying a lot! I can't believe he said that to you. He's wrong, of course, but it does say how he feels about your coming back. He could make your return unpleasant. What it comes down to though, is your relationship with your sensei. If you were happy with your sensei before and happy with the dojo, you probably will be again... eventually.

If you have good friends at the Shotokan dojo, you might be happy there, too, but you might be burning a bridge with your Wado sensei. Some would take great offense at something like that. It's one thing to not be able to train. Rejecting your Wado dojo in favor of the Shotokan dojo could be a really big deal.

I like your idea of giving Wado a chance. I'm not sure a month is enough time to get back on track, but it might give you enough time to see if things will work out in the long run.

Good luck!

[mongo]

As an instructor I can say I am always happy to have people back after an injury. No they cant perform right away but everything has to be taken in context. You will set an excellent example of coming back after an injury. The other student can go stuff it. If you like the INSTRUCTOR and want to learn from him again go back. If he is worth his stuff he will welcome you back.

What most people are affraid of at this point is looking the fool, you look more a fool running from what you want.

Old Japanese saying- "fall down 9 times get up 10."

[Dobbersky]

Resepctfully Derwentbob

I think your talking rubbish. If you love Wado that much Stick with it. Your Instructor, Not you, will decide what belt you should wear.

Wado although it has similar kata etc to Shotokan is a different art, the stances are different and Wado has the influx of Jujitsu. You'll feel like you're sucking eggs going through the Kyu grades again. Whereas you could relearn the Pinans, Kushanku, etc and all the Ippon's etc without having to worry about grading again til your ready for your next Dan grade level.

I see your issue as just a "pride" issue and as Yudansha you should always be humble.

Talk to your Wado Instructor and se what he/she suggests for your return to the art.

[sensei8]

Stay with Wado!! To me it's just that simple. Don't live your martial arts through the eyes of others, especially those who would want you to quit. This is your decision and your decision must be respected. You don't have to live up to your last belt just because someone said so, that's not cool!

The only opinion that should ever matter is your Sensei's...period! Release your emotional content, and then return to Wado! Your Sensei knows you were injured and in that, your Sensei will understand and will not expect you to be at your former level....for now. Your Sensei will know about your injury and how to ease you back into your zone so as to not cause you any grief and/or strife. Your Sensei will know how to use your injury to better serve you and your martial arts.

Take it slow and take it easy. Rushing to be your former level will possibly only cause you more harm than good.

Taste Wado again, and then, see that it's STILL good!

[Jay]

Stay with Wado!! To me it's just that simple. Don't live your martial arts through the eyes of others, especially those who would want you to quit. This is your decision and your decision must be respected. You don't have to live up to your last belt just because someone said so, that's not cool!

The only opinion that should ever matter is your Sensei's...period! Release your emotional content, and then return to Wado! Your Sensei knows you were injured and in that, your Sensei will understand and will not expect you to be at your former level....for now. Your Sensei will know about your injury and how to ease you back into your zone so as to not cause you any grief and/or strife. Your Sensei will know how to use your injury to better serve you and your martial arts.

Take it slow and take it easy. Rushing to be your former level will possibly only cause you more harm than good.

Taste Wado again, and then, see that it's STILL good!

Spot on

Ignore everyone else. People get caught up in an ego battle in martial arts. I have noticed it alot. Your not here to live up to someone elses expectations. You here to live up to your own. If you wish to go back then go back, if you feel its time to move on then move on. However if you have a good relationship with your teacher then this can be a rare thing.

[Spodo Komodo]

Well thanks for all the advice but it just isn't working out. I have decided to quit martial arts and so I bid you all farewell.

[wolverine uskf]

I'm new on here, but i have a similar problem. I earned a brown belt at a school that went under do to money issues, and a brown with black stripe in another school, but was in a car accident that destroyed my left arm. I would love to get my black belt, but with 3 plates and 24 screws in my arm i can't fulfill the requirements to get it in my system. Plus in the 4 years since my accident, the school moved and i don't know where it is now. I can still do the techniques, but can't take any impact on my arm. I don't know what to do, i'm working out with my son's, and teaching them, but would like to get my black belt and teach others too.

[Dobbersky]

Wolverine

Nothing stopping you getting a Blackbelt if you want one so bad. A good Instructor will help you adapt your karate around you and your abilities. Research where you previous school has moved to, failing that find a local school who will help you get to the level you want. They may even have an Instructor training programme you can sign up for (just be careful its not a McDojo or a Belt factory)

Good luck on your Journey and keep us all informed

OSU!!!

Edited August 19, 2010 by Dobbersky

[wolverine uskf]

Thanks, i'll try that. For a long time i wasn't worried about my belt, because i knew my abilities, and knew that i could teach, because i was asked to by the instructors when they couldn't be there, and it always went well. The only problem is i would like to teach on a bigger scale, and 17 years of trainig doesn't seem to matter without a black belt.