SaiFightsMS Posted July 23, 2002 Posted July 23, 2002 We had a situation where a young male was teasing a young female before class something about a weight issue. So come time to spar he kept having to get up off the floor. Guess who he was sparring with? Problem taken care of no more teasing.
BlueDragon1981 Posted July 23, 2002 Posted July 23, 2002 I feel that a lot of black belts are like that. That is why when I looked for a school I watched first to see it there were any like that and the extreme of it. I dont like arrogance. I will never give a black belt to anyone when I start a school who is inmature and arrogant. I will also never give a black belt to anyone under 15 (and that is pushing it)
G95champ Posted July 24, 2002 Posted July 24, 2002 Well with everything said no question the best way is to simply not pay any attention to him but at times you must move on to the next phase. Most bullies only understand violence. Sort of like the kid who keeps putting his finger in the light socket sooner or later he will learn. LOL (General George S. Patton Jr.) "It's the unconquerable soul of man, and not the nature of the weapon he uses, that ensures victory."
DeeLovesKarate Posted July 24, 2002 Author Posted July 24, 2002 Thanks guys. Okay, to reply, he is definatly NOT flirting with me. It sounds like it, but if you saw him doing it, it is not flirting. It's just him being mean. I DO take advantage of his lack of focus in the sparring/teasing area, but he doesn't seem to care, as long as it doesn't make him look weak. I don't think he should have recieved his belt either, and the other black belts and people at the school notice that also. Everyone at my school is so kind and friendly it's freaky, except him. He's only gotten in trouble for missing classes, and punching me in the chest, which is a big no no at our school. The teasing isn't recognized, though. I wish he was put in his place, all the same. I will be nice to him, but in sparring, I won't go easy on him at all, if he leaves himself open, it's his fault, and my match. Grrrrrrr, Dee Dee C.Normal ( 'nor-m&l)-an adj. used by humans to stereotype
omnifinite Posted August 1, 2002 Posted August 1, 2002 When I was younger there were a bunch of bullies in my class. None of them made it to black belt... usually their belts were lower than mine... and I could mop the floor with them sparring... but that never stopped them from trying to bully me on the sidelines or outside the class. So sometimes putting them in their "place" doesn't work if it's not something you're going to do off the mat as well. Maybe it's different with the one you know because it's based on skill, or at least the skill his belt color represents, rather than just being a jerk. I guess my advice would be to just accept that there are idiots out there and not care what he has to say. Kick his butt on the mat, keep yourself safe in and out of class, stay you no matter what he does, and in the end his words will only have the meaning you let them have. His personality will get him nowhere in life, and that's all the revenge you'd ever need. And make sure the instructor knows and pays attention to what's going on. If the guy keeps it up, someday you'll be the higher black belt anyway. Good luck. 1st Dan HapkidoColored belts in Kempo and Jujitsu
TKD_McGee Posted August 5, 2002 Posted August 5, 2002 You should cry and find a real dojo that dosent mix kids with adults... maybe something in your own age group. That or grow up and get tough ya wuss! Do unto others, as they done to you.
DeeLovesKarate Posted August 6, 2002 Author Posted August 6, 2002 You should cry and find a real dojo that dosent mix kids with adults... maybe something in your own age group. That or grow up and get tough ya wuss!1. Why would I cry? I just want to instill a little knowledge into the hard heads and steel hearts of the ignorant, which I know you may recognize. 2. My dojo is a real dojo, and that guy is in my age group. 3. I'm grown up. 4. I am definatly tough, and you can not prove me differently. 5. I am not a wuss, and please, use spell check, and try to form complete sentances. Grrrrrrrrrr, Dee Laughing at the ignorant Dee C.Normal ( 'nor-m&l)-an adj. used by humans to stereotype
Martial_Artist Posted August 6, 2002 Posted August 6, 2002 Hi Dee, This guy pretty much teases you the whole time? This guy is obviously an infant. (mentally) If he teases you, why should you care? Does this guy threaten your self-esteem? Who is he that he should have such a powerful affect on you? Do you esteem this guy highly? If not, then why even care if teases you? Do you not feel confident in your own skill? If you do, then why would you let this guy's opinion mean anything to you? If I were you and this guy was just talking and teasing me, in effect, mocking me. If I didn't what this guy thought, if he didn't mean anything to me, then I wouldn't care. I would fight him in the sparring matches, but not to prove anything to him, or anyone else. I would fight him without thinking I'm going to get this guy for mocking me Because, fighting with that as your motive misdirects your mind and affects your overall training. Your mental mind will eventually get tainted from the vengeance conditioning. Look, the guy talks a bunch of crap. So what? That's all it is, crap. Don't let it get to you. You should be of the mentality that you know yourself and what you can do. And no matter what anyone of unimportance says, you are still in control. This guy at your dojo has demonstrated one thing: he has control over you. He can make you mad, he hurt your feeling, he can control you in the dojo. Why give him the satisfaction. EVEN IF YOU HIT HIM, he is still in control. No one can MAKE you mad. They cannot crawl inside your head and flip the mad-switch "on." That's a personal decision. The best thing you can do is just forget the guy. Who is he? He is nobody. A nothing to you. He is there when he presents himself as your sparring partner, but he is not your mocker, nor verbal assaulter, he is just your target, your opponent. You are not fighting him to GET EVEN with him. Just to train. Me personally. I wouldn't care. If you let this guy get to you then he has already won, and you have lost a very important battle a lot of martial artists face. That's just my humble opinion. Do with it what you will. "I am enough of an artist to draw freely upon my imagination.Imagination is more important than knowledge.Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world." Einstein
Ti-Kwon-Leap Posted August 12, 2002 Posted August 12, 2002 Read "Living The Martial Way" by Forrest E Morgan, The Way To Victory" by Hidy Ochai Or The Martial Artist's Boook Of Five Rings By Stephen F Kaufman. The "bad black belt" won't matter much to you after you read and apply the principles therin. Ti-Kwon-Leap"Annoying the ignorant since 1961"
DeeLovesKarate Posted August 12, 2002 Author Posted August 12, 2002 Hi Dee, This guy pretty much teases you the whole time? This guy is obviously an infant. (mentally) If he teases you, why should you care? Does this guy threaten your self-esteem? Who is he that he should have such a powerful affect on you? Do you esteem this guy highly? If not, then why even care if teases you? Do you not feel confident in your own skill? If you do, then why would you let this guy's opinion mean anything to you? If I were you and this guy was just talking and teasing me, in effect, mocking me. If I didn't what this guy thought, if he didn't mean anything to me, then I wouldn't care. I would fight him in the sparring matches, but not to prove anything to him, or anyone else. I would fight him without thinking I'm going to get this guy for mocking me Because, fighting with that as your motive misdirects your mind and affects your overall training. Your mental mind will eventually get tainted from the vengeance conditioning. Look, the guy talks a bunch of crap. So what? That's all it is, crap. Don't let it get to you. You should be of the mentality that you know yourself and what you can do. And no matter what anyone of unimportance says, you are still in control. This guy at your dojo has demonstrated one thing: he has control over you. He can make you mad, he hurt your feeling, he can control you in the dojo. Why give him the satisfaction. EVEN IF YOU HIT HIM, he is still in control. No one can MAKE you mad. They cannot crawl inside your head and flip the mad-switch "on." That's a personal decision. The best thing you can do is just forget the guy. Who is he? He is nobody. A nothing to you. He is there when he presents himself as your sparring partner, but he is not your mocker, nor verbal assaulter, he is just your target, your opponent. You are not fighting him to GET EVEN with him. Just to train. Me personally. I wouldn't care. If you let this guy get to you then he has already won, and you have lost a very important battle a lot of martial artists face. That's just my humble opinion. Do with it what you will. Thank you. You left no more to be said.Though, (contradictorally)( Did I spell that correctly? Is that even a word?) I do have one thing to say. I don't give in. The battle is not over. This is round one. Halfway in. I have a few tricks up my sleeve. Grrrrrrrr, Dee Dee C.Normal ( 'nor-m&l)-an adj. used by humans to stereotype
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