Why to NEVER trust a stanger...

[Menjo]

Ok, I have recently learned a new lesson in life.

I'm going to Shotokan class one average night(last night) and everything is normal. As I'm approaching the door theres a member there who seemed to be staring at me alot. I sent the negative body language signs as to let him know I'm only friends in terms of fellow karateka.

This is where it gets, creepy, strange, and for me, downright terrifying. This isnt for the faint of heart! Firstly, hes over 40 years older than me. Secondly, were both guys and theirs nothing wrong with that, but he should know better than that.

He comes up to me and asks some questions about Heian Nidan, I answered them with ease and let him knew I was open to kata questions. He then says that he wants private instruction, really just one on one training. A reasonable concern, "theres sunday free workouts availible" I replied, but then he said he was to tired. Its gets worse...

Anyway then he offers me MONEY to go to HIS CONDO in some REMOTE LOCATION. At this point my spidy sense are really tingling here.

Then he offers me a lift home and WANTS TO KNOW WHERE I LIVE...

I told him I lived somewhere in the city so he would never find out.

Then hes like, well moneys really not an issue, I could pay you as much as you want. Anyway, I said I'd think about it, sent him negative signs with body language to show I'm not homosexual at all, mentioned my girlfriend and walked home.

I told my family everything and they said I did the right thing, but its hard to sleep with something like that happening.

I told my instructor and hes going to take care of it.

Turns out he was KICKED OUT of another club close by, probably hitting on other high school students....hes over 60 by the way. Whatever the case, its not his first time.

Anyway thanks for reading this, If anything like this has happened to you, then post your story.

Its always good to know what situations predators may create to get the upper hand and have thier way, I know I'll always be ready.

[A_Train]

If the same situation happend at another club, maybe it is worthwile to make it known that it is continuing to happen. Otherwise eventually, someone may take him up on his offer, and if he is as creepy as you said, maybe it won't end so well for them.

[Menjo]

If the same situation happend at another club, maybe it is worthwile to make it known that it is continuing to happen. Otherwise eventually, someone may take him up on his offer, and if he is as creepy as you said, maybe it won't end so well for them.

Thats a good point A_Train, I'll make sure to do so. Hopefully my instructor knows this as well and will fix it up.

[Rainbow_Warrior]

Hmmmm that is nasty.

I know who do u feel. The other day , at the university a professor grabbed my bicep and said ´´ I need some strong boys because I am gonna move to another house ´´ . I pushed his hand away and said ´´ Hey , u are touching me . I m gonna tell that to the authorities ´´ in a semi-serius tone...

He walked away....

How old are u ?

[kkennedy219]

Yeesh, how awful.

Just to commiserate, I was once mistaken for a prostitute on the streets of San Francisco when I was in high school. I have no idea how this idiot thought I was a hooker because I was a very down-home, wholesome-looking girl with braids and freckles. I was standing in the doorway of my acting school waiting for my mom to meet me, and I had only been there for maybe a minute when this way older guy (he had to be at least 60) came up and told me I was very pretty and what was a "working girl" like me going for these days? I told him to go to hell and went back into the building. I never told my parents or they would have made me quit the acting program in the evil big city.

You should definitely report him to all the other dojos in your area, if not the police. Good for you for keeping your wits about you. You definitely did the right thing.

[Menjo]

Hmmmm that is nasty.

I know who do u feel. The other day , at the university a professor grabbed my bicep and said ´´ I need some strong boys because I am gonna move to another house ´´ . I pushed his hand away and said ´´ Hey , u are touching me . I m gonna tell that to the authorities ´´ in a semi-serius tone...

He walked away....

How old are u ?

Thats unfortunate, but its good you solved it so fast, and I'm old enough not to trust people like that!

Yeesh, how awful.

Just to commiserate, I was once mistaken for a prostitute on the streets of San Francisco when I was in high school. I have no idea how this idiot thought I was a hooker because I was a very down-home, wholesome-looking girl with braids and freckles. I was standing in the doorway of my acting school waiting for my mom to meet me, and I had only been there for maybe a minute when this way older guy (he had to be at least 60) came up and told me I was very pretty and what was a "working girl" like me going for these days? I told him to go to hell and went back into the building. I never told my parents or they would have made me quit the acting program in the evil big city.

You should definitely report him to all the other dojos in your area, if not the police. Good for you for keeping your wits about you. You definitely did the right thing.

That sounds like heavy desperation on the old guys part.

yeah, I'll just see what happens next, because physically I dont have anything to worry about, just the wierdness.

You shouldve spit in his face though...haha.

[Philosophical One]

Hi Menjo,

I'm really glad you're ok.

I really must commend you for telling the instructor too.

Too many people keep quiet about these sorts of things... the person gets away with it and they can continue to upset more and more people.

It's a shame there are these sorts of people in Karate.

[Menjo]

Hi Menjo,

I'm really glad you're ok.

I really must commend you for telling the instructor too.

Too many people keep quiet about these sorts of things... the person gets away with it and they can continue to upset more and more people.

It's a shame there are these sorts of people in Karate.

Thanks, Philosophical One. Its like some sort of sickness with people like that, and I just can't understand how screwed up thier morals are.

[dete]

The faster you end this kind of inappropriateness the better.

There is a thing called verbal abuse.

In other words it's ridiculous to even have a conversation at all.

You can just walk off. I know it seems very cold & not normal

thing to do, but this is not a normal situation.

If thugs were to jump you, they would many times distract you by words. So the fighting part of self-defense starts here, verbal combat.

many times if a shady person talks to me on the street, I don't hear what they said, because I'm thinking tactics already. I'm thinking about what range are they in, what are my options, what is the worst case scenario?

I don't listen, I trust my instincts that I felt this is shady, so I defend that.

If I'm wrong, oops sorry, but that's life, I have to becareful.

[mmljpp]

im sorry for what happened but u did the right thing