the fear before of fighting

[blood talon]

hey again, so anywayz, i want to talk about the feeling of "maybe i wont win or sumthing might happen".before sumthing happens i always feel weird like my heart beats, and i have a thought or two about not fighting.

 

and even with someone thats smaller(i dont start fights, there are alot of "brave"ppl in this world). i just feel like walkin away, like a fear, but even if im positive i would win, there a feelin that is very strong in the beggining, like a fear of fighting. its not till we start throwing punches when the feelin leaves, even through that push u push him part.

[KickChick]

This is the "flight-or-fight" response ...while the body is preparing itself to fight, the thought-processing areas of the brain, which in a few seconds must decide whether to run away or take action,

 

After assessing the threat, the brain may decide it is minor and judge it an acceptable threat and embrace it, such as the fear you experience when making your first parachute jump. After a fearful experience, we have a feeling of relief and elation, so acceptable threats may actually be therapeutic. They allow the these thought processes of the brain to engage and give one the "rush" of fear without the accompanying danger.

 

So in a self-defense situation, if you should feel cold, turn pale, get goose bumps, your pulse rate increases, and you begin to tremble, its not due to the fact that youre scared to death , it is the natural response of your body preparing to either ":flee or fight".

 

I actually experienced this last month on my trip to Costa Rica. Although it wasn't before a fight, I did try zip lining from treetop to treetop in the rainforests there 250ft. up in the air. Truly a fear factor for me since I am deathly afraid of heights

 

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[ This Message was edited by: KickChick on 2002-06-06 15:47 ]

[Ti-Kwon-Leap]

KickChick, you mean to tell me that you can't simply "run" from treetop to treetop?

 

My image of you has just been shattered.

 

 

[KickChick]

 

 

Sorry to have disappointed you so .... was not my intention LOL

 

ah ... like in the movie "Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon"??? um ..... "Where's my stand in?" you are called Ti-Kwon-Leap correct?

 

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[ This Message was edited by: KickChick on 2002-06-06 16:09 ]

[ZeRo]

i had that last saturday me and my friends got started on by some guys. at first i had that kinda fear thing but then i just got so so SO angry. my friend had to hold me back. they were no really threat but i could have knocked all 5 of them to the floor. what do i do if i have that feeling again. i could really hurt them. they had no MA training (but they could run pretty fast!) it says in fight club that most people will do almost anything to avoid a fight. so can any of you help me, what do i do if i get really angry.

 

 

[Ti-Kwon-Leap]

You must strive to control your emotions.

 

I don't want to sound like the pseudo-shaman from "MysteryMen" But if you do not control your emotions, your emotions will control you.

 

 

 

By choosing to get angry, you will only make things worse.

 

Anger is an offshoot of fear.

 

Fear keeps us alive but anger does nothing constructive.

 

As your confidence in your MA skill increases, your anger quotent will decrease.

 

 

 

Oh, and to KickChick:

 

That's why they call me

 

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[ This Message was edited by: Ti-Kwon-Leap on 2002-06-06 16:59 ]

[ZeRo]

thanks ti-kwon i know what you mean about emotion controling you. if you get angry or fustrated when your sparring you lose concentration and you get hit.

 

 

[Knuth]

Ignore it. Don't concentrate on the outcome.

 

 

[Eye of the Tiger]

blood talon are you scared to fight someone in a confrontation?

 

 

[ckdstudent]

Look angry, but don't be it.

 

As for being afraid of fighting that's a good thing. Fighting is not a good idea and should be avoided whenever possible. When its unavoidable though the fear tends to dissipate rather rapidly to be replaced by survival instinct and training.