I hope you have children just like you!

[marie curie]

Hehe, in my kaju school we often hear that statement, that's so funny that she thought to say it

The girls in my school are lovingly refferred to as "Team Excessive Force" due to our penalties, so I must say- go her. (I expect to be "blessed" with such a child myself)

I think it's appropriate for kids. If there are jokes that are "mature" then either she'll already know what its about and get them (too late to shield anything) or they'll fly right over her head and blend with the rest of the dialog.

[lordtariel]

I asked her why she got so mad and was told "daddy they let him hit me in the face, and then he smiled and said "get up so I can do it again", that is what made me mad!" I did not hear this statement by the boy, but Doc (my Sensei) said he did. Now that does not excuse her behavior, and we discussed control, but I do understand why she did it.

Wow, your first post made it sound like she knocked him on his butt and then mocked him about it. This puts things a little more into perspective.

[bushido_man96]

It is interesting that the boy had a comment for her originally. That would have probably fired me up as well.

It sounds to me like you have handled the entire situation pretty well. A good learning experience for all involved.

[ninjanurse]

Arrogance is never cool and should not be rewarded. I personally feel that this is what we are trying to teach our young students not to do.

[USCMAAI]

Arrogance is never cool and should not be rewarded. I personally feel that this is what we are trying to teach our young students not to do.

I understand your feelings in this regard, and agree. However, I don't see this as arrogance, as much as it was anger. She was angry that a call was not made. She was angry that the young man mocked her, and she was angry that he felt that he could do it again. We did visit the young man's Dojang last night. My daughter humbled herself in front of the boy, his instructor, the youngmans parents and his entire class. She said she was sorry and was greeted with " you were lucky, next time I will beat you!" I was stunned! The boys instructor was just as angry! He was very cold and not very receptive. The only thing that made the visit moderately successful was that the youngman's father made him accept Kinzie's apology, and then thanked her for comming. Arrogance does seem to be prevail in some schools, and I agree that we should teach our students to be humble. I try to teach my students to be humble, but to be confident in their ability as well. Especially the girls! As I have said before, a woman needs to be confident in herself and be willing to stand up to a threat (physical, emotional, psychological, etc). My daughter is a smart (at age 13 will be attending Kansas University for summer courses), sweet and sensitive. But she is also know as "little tiger" (guess who is known as "tiger"!), and I will help her learn to control and use her temper, but will never try to curb her confidence (arrogance if you would like). I have told her that there are probably people who are better at karate /fighting (all things really) than you are, but 9 times out of 10 skill alone does not win. Heart and indominatable spirit can be what takes you over the top. I can honestly say that she does not look for trouble, but if trouble finds her, she will deal with it to the best of her ability. SHE WILL NEVER BE A VICTIM!

[bushido_man96]

Wow, that boy has some issues. I think that instructor does as well. Sounds like the Cobra Kai from the Karate Kid series. I think what you did for your daughter was a good experience, though. Kudos to you and your daughter!

[The BB of C]

Arrogance is never cool and should not be rewarded. I personally feel that this is what we are trying to teach our young students not to do.

We did visit the young man's Dojang last night. My daughter humbled herself in front of the boy, his instructor, the youngmans parents and his entire class. She said she was sorry and was greeted with " you were lucky, next time I will beat you!" I was stunned! The boys instructor was just as angry! He was very cold and not very receptive. The only thing that made the visit moderately successful was that the youngman's father made him accept Kinzie's apology, and then thanked her for comming.

Oh if I saw a little kid say that to my daughter I'd let her give it to him all over again.

[Kieran-Lilith]

You know, I think the large majority of us have found that women in the martial arts are not people to mess with. He just found out the hard way.

[USCMAAI]

I know that some of you may think I am a bit extreme in my views on women being assertive. I work as a counselor for sex offenders in a prison, and see how they still manipulate women (what else would you call a mother who stays with a man who molests her child?). It is rather pathetic and disgusting to see. I try and teach my children (son and daughters) that no one has a right to abuse you in any way, and that the morals and values that they have must be defended. I also teach them to be kind and gentle when possible, but when being assertive is called for, be really assertive!

[The BB of C]

That makes a lot of sense and I certainly don't blame you for thinking that. If by some horrid mistake of nature I ever end up with children I would think the same way.