Dating "in-school"

[karatefox]

I agree that it messes things up, but those darn black belt boys are always so dang hot!!!! I can't help it that we actually go to the same school. A normal boy is an A, a martial arts boy is an A+++

[Davison]

i couldnt agree more!!!

[tsdstud]

So Prom was Saturday. We had a good night. Sad to see it all end though. That was the 7th dance we've gone to together. HAd to take a pic of us dancing the last song. Too bad she'll be gone to college in a few months... After all that, she had a date last night. Totally screwed my night/week. Ah well, got another prom Thursday. Course, it's another karate girl. She's not from my school but another one an hour away that's part of our association.

[Guitar_lover]

Man, with relashenships you to just let them happen. Never go looking, but thats easyer said then done. Of course sometime it works when looking. Don;t ya love life

[Fenris-wolf]

I think it's only illegal for a student to date a teacher (in the actual book-learning kind of school) because the students are generally under 18, and the teachers are generally older than that, thus making the students illegal to anyone.

 

Is the "age of consent" 18 in America?? It's 16 here (NZ), so MonkeyGirl's comment sounded kind of odd.

 

And I have to confess I had a big crush on my instructor for a while, but even apart from the 14 year age gap (he's older), he has a long-term g/f so I wouldn't even bother.

 

I really think that all these rules are just like statistics; they have to be exaggerated because we're talking about such a huge range of people. It's all about how mature you can be about the relationship both when in it and out of it.

 

I broke the biggest rule in the book and slept with my flatmate -4 days after I moved in! He's also in my Muay Thai club. The only little hitch we had is that he had difficulty sparring with my at first; I just laughed and went hard out until he got the point!!

[Budderfly]

I met my boyfriend at my school. He joined 5 months before me. We get along great and our relationship just works so well. We've been together for 1 1/2 years and we've never had an argument. We have a lot of respect for each other and the school. Meaning, when we are at Tong Moo Do, we are students, not bf/gf. It is hard though to spar with him. I noticed I go more full out on other people but when I'm with him, my guard goes down a bit. I tried to picture him as someone trying to hurt me, but psychologically I know he won't so that doesn't work.

[granmasterchen]

bad idea to have ex's and such in the dojo, remember....dojo not soap opera

[karate_woman]

I met my boyfriend at my school. He joined 5 months before me. We get along great and our relationship just works so well. We've been together for 1 1/2 years and we've never had an argument. We have a lot of respect for each other and the school. Meaning, when we are at Tong Moo Do, we are students, not bf/gf. It is hard though to spar with him. I noticed I go more full out on other people but when I'm with him, my guard goes down a bit. I tried to picture him as someone trying to hurt me, but psychologically I know he won't so that doesn't work.

 

Put it this way - what if he were to REALLY attack you? Have you done the mental preparation to defend yourself against a loved one? Early in my martial arts life, my Sensei advised us all that the odds are greater to be attacked by someone you KNOW, and she'd found that there is often soul searching and a conscious decision involved before people know for sure they would defend themselves in such a situation. As for class, he's an opponent like any other, and I actually got MORE competitive when I used to spar and grapple my ex-husband, rather than less

[kajukenbo dad]

You play......you pay!!!!!!!!!......even Sifu too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good Luck

[kataman]

remember that martial art is realy good for the social live , so sometime some people will go futher then just sociolize that life got to live it.