Important Question

[bushido_man96]

As a teenage girl, I can say I would probably give my number to a guy if he asked. Depends, though. If you're a guy from my school, who I've known for years and still don't like, the probability is very small. But other guys aren't bad. Well, at least, not all the time. The only conclusion I've ever reached about guys is that they're dumb. They completely miss it when we want them to ask for our number.

Instead of waiting for us to pick up on clues we won't notice, you should just offer it for us!

[Shui Tora]

The only conclusion I've ever reached about guys is that they're dumb. They completely miss it when we want them to ask for our number.... girls don't really like it when guys make them feel awkward. We like feeling like we're in charge, even if we aren't.

Very good advice there!

The last time i asked a girl to the dance was about a year ago... I had asked her about 2 weeks before the dance and I got her number too... The day before the dance, she rang me and asked if i wanted to go into town with her to get her dress and some other things and then see a film.... I did (as if i wouldn't... she is hot! ) Then after that I took her home, and she said she couldn't wait to see me at the dance... (What a hit!) Anyhows, I took her to the dance, we danced, had food, danced some more, then after the dance, we kissed.... WOW! Ever since then, we've been going out...

My point is, just be yourself... We i asked the girl before the dance, i just made jokes, made her laugh (even though I was petrified with her friends there!) and started talking about things... I then blurted out if i could have her number, and she said yes.... Funny i thought it would've been harder with her friends there, but I just said it!

Be yourself, act normal, and get her talking about things that you both like.... the worst that could happen is she'll become one worded answers and seem uninterested....

[Jeet Kune Do]

The only conclusion I've ever reached about guys is that they're dumb. They completely miss it when we want them to ask for our number.

really!? well I must confess, there was a girl who wanted me to contact her like her phone number or her MSN, she kept on pretending to make a story so that I would hear her MSN or phone number, her best Idea was that she bought a new phone and wrote her number on lots of pieces of paper, then she started to give it out to all the people in my math class including me, I looked at it and she stared at me hoping to do something and I said "Sorry, but I dont have a phone" So I scrunched t up and threw it away........another nice one which I was interested in asked me to go to town with her, But I was too shy and said I am too ill to go out, and because I am too shy, I became her friend instead, now it is easier for me to tell her that she is pretty

[Chris05]

thanks for advice

[Chris05]

ok how would i pick up a random girl i dont know in the street,movies, mall, etc and get her number.

[Ace2021]

These days it's relatively easy...

But what the others said, confidence. If you think she won't like you, she probably won't.

[jaymac]

Just start off with a friendly conversation. Don't use any of those dumb old pick up lines. Once you have her trust in you that you are a good guy, then ask her if you can have her number.

[Chris05]

"Just start off with a friendly conversation."

see thats hard for me because i dont know how to do that well any suggestions

[username8517]

Ahhh, I remember the first day I met my wife. >

You see, the day I met my wife was the first day of college the fall quarter of 2002. She came into the class a few minutes late and there were only two open seats--the one next to me and one the next row up and a couple rows over. I knew from the moment I saw her that I wanted her to sit next to me and thankfully she did. However, things were not exactly going smoothly for good old me back then.

Two days prior to the start of the school quarter I had my wisdom teeth cut out. And lucky me, I got an abcess. So here I was the first day of the quarter, sitting next to this extemely beautiful woman, and I'm both in pain and half-doped up on Vicodin. Naturally I strike up a conversation with her and we have small talk intermittently throughout the class for a while. Things were going well for me. And naturally due to not only my both social and sarcastic nature (a slight paradox yes I know but I've never claimed to be normal) and balancing my mental state between sudden sharp pain in my mouth and feelings of being in la-la land, it was not long before my dumb self let my mouth say something without my brain verifying it was okay first.

In all honesty, I don't even remember what I said. But I do remember the look on her face and it definately something along the lines of "What the ______ did he just say??" Heck, I didn't even apologize. In fact we didn't really say another word to each other the rest of the class. Eventually class ended and we went our seperate ways.

Well two days later I head back to class and take my same seat again. Only this time my abcess was getting better and I was able to get by with some advil numbing some slightly moderate pain I was suffering. Class eventually began and my beautiful woman was no where to be found. Sure enough, here she comes in again late.

Looking around I saw the same two open seats. Surely she wouldn't sit by me, not after putting my foot in my mouth last time. But to my suprise she did (for which I still call her a fool for doing so). Well I can you I wasn't going to do the same mistake again. She wasn't in that seat for two minutes and I was already apologizing for my previous comments and explained what exactly I was going through that previous day.

And the rest is history my friend. . . .

Okay, so you're probably wondering why the heck I would bother to let you know all that stuff. Well aside from liking to hear myself speak from time to time (or type in this case), it illustrates some very important points.

1). Just be yourself. If you try and fake being someone you're not, either you'll be busted on the spot or down the road.

2). Strike up a conversation. Actually have something to talk about when you approach her rather than flying by the seat of your pants. And just a hint, women like a man who knows how to listen when they talk That will help you keep a conversation going once you start it.

and this third one wasn't really in the story, but

3). Who cares if she says no. There are plenty of other things to worry about in this world than being shot down by a girl. After all, it's just a phone number. It's not like she's hording the cure for cancer. And if she doesn't want to give you her number than she doesn't deserve your time--don't fret over it & move on.

[Chris05]

bearich you situation perfect because u sat right next to her. but say a girls at the mall or a bustop how would i introduce my self to her