What should I do?

[ps1]

your right about learning over the internet, its not a good way to learn. I'll see my schools wrestling coach and see what its all about. If he can't help, then i should just keep wrestling with my cousin, after all you learn through experiments and experience

Good Idea!

[ps1]

Learning grappling over the internet would be like learning hon-shin-do and kobu-do over the internet. You aren't going to be able to learn much this way.

I agree to a point. Depends on one's background in martial arts as well as their athleticism. To become a black-belt level BJJ practitioner one certainly needs to get a good instructor at a good school and be prepared to train hard and long for quite a while. However, I learned most of the required blue belt techniques on my own through books and video and my beloved bjj.org (RIP), and when I finally started formal BJJ training, my instructor didn't believe I had never taken BJJ before. After a short time training, I regularly tap out blue belts and I have had much better than expected success against purple belts as well.

Of course, no one can learn grappling without a partner to train with. I would usually just grab anyone I could from my karate class and grapple, preferably with the former wrestlers we have. However, someone who has little prior MA experience will likely not have the kinesthetic awareness to avoid developing bad habits, so this probably won't work for them.

With respect,

Sohan

That is what I am afraid of, developing the bad habits. And I definitely notice that I don't have very good kinesthetic awareness. I can never tell what is going on with other parts of my body when I have a lock applied to me.

If you can't tell what your other limbs are doing that is a clue that you are trying too hard. That is...your letting your body take control of the situation. That is ok if, as Sohan mentioned, you have developed good habits.

Here's my advice in this case. Work on slowing down. Don't be concerned if someone is going to tap you or not. Remember, as I'm sure you know, winning and losing in the academy is not the purpose of training. Slow your body and mind to allow yourself to truly feel what is happening with your opponent and your body as he/she applies a technique. Do this for several weeks or even a few months. Then decide on a game plan that can take advantage of those movements you feel most commonly. Lastly, employ that gameplan until it becomes second nature. You'll soon find that techniques or set-ups that seemed tedius become easy.

Good luck

[bushido_man96]

Good advise, ps1. Thank you.