Boy Punched Girl!!!!!

[TKD_McGee]

Ask most Males now adays and they would tell you that they would punch a girl irreguardless of the situation..

 

Well there you have it.. most people are nuts today no wonder they die young.

 

 

[Singularity]

Thanks for the compliment CT. I guess I came up with it from watching too many dumbasses in college take their girlfriends for granted, and from being the nerdy friend that all the girls talk to about these problems. I'm pretty pathetic, I think that females are godesses and that guys should be grateful that we are allowed in their presence. Yes I do talk to animals, but they only make fun of me about not having a girlfriend. I think everyone here has given great advice, avoid a fight, but don't avoid the chance to rectify this.

 

Dave

[van_damme]

Well all i can say is i have a double lesson of drama 2morrow with this prick,if he looks at me funny,sorry but i have enough room in there to do some 360 kicks,and just basically teach that punk never to hit my best friend again,or to hit a woman ever again.

[rabid hamster]

If he ever goes near her again, get him lol. But I really wouldn't attack him until he tries to attack you, her, or anyone else. You don't wanna get expelled..

[Bon]

I've only heard your side of the story...

 

I don't know his side..

 

I don't agree completely with never hit a girl, although I could never do it myself.

 

If that was one of my girl friends he hit, I would have dropped him right there and then, as well as kept on laying into him.

 

Always wait for revenge, NEVER go looking for it.. One day you'll probably see him on the street by himself, get him then.

 

 

[Bitseach]

Van Damme - don't throw away your chances of future success by giving this guy the kicking he so richly deserves. If you get caught and end up being expelled or banned from sitting your exams, that's your whole future down the toilet. Besides, you lose power.

 

At the moment you're quite het up about this. I don't blame you, but whilst you feel this way it is the worst time for you to confront him. Stand by the river long enough you will witness the bodies of your enemies float past!

 

If the conflict between Ms T and Michael is about him being unable to accept that the relationship is over and he is hassling her, then he is on the way to becoming a junior stalker. The best thing for Ms T to do is to give him no time at all, and no conversation.

 

Assuming that she doesn't want to continue the relationship then she must not get drawn into conversation with him - that is the goal of any stalker. What these people learn is that anything that provokes a reaction is in itself like a relationship. It might be a bad, horrid, disfunctional relationship, but to Michael it is probably all the relationship he will have with her, and that seems to be enough for him at the moment. If he continues to hassle her and on the 11th time, she responds, then he learns that it takes 11 hassles to get a response.

 

Meanwhile the best thing you and the others can do is to be good friends to Miss T, and don't even think about making a move on her while this is all happening!

 

One day, Michael may have to be taught that hitting people weaker than he is not a good life plan, but you throwing your future away is not the way to achieve this. By NOT hitting him, you are not doing nothing (action is easier but not always the wisest plan), but at the same time let him know that he cannot get away with bullying or harassment, especially of women or those weaker than he.

 

Also remember that, as a martial artist you will get caned by the courts if you are caught doing damage to this bloke. If you have to intervene in anything physically, restrain only, and get a decent teacher to sort it out. And you better make sure you have witnesses that you've warned the guy first!

[van_damme]

Thanks for the advice.I have calmed down now,and i aint gonna go looking for him kick the crap out of him,although he will get what he deservs in the near future,but right now im gonna lay low and hit the books..

 

[G95champ]

As most agree your attack on the boy does not make anything right.

 

Now the guy was wrong to hit your friend but at the same time your friend hit him first. Im sorry He should not have punched her but I get sick and tired of all this equal rights stuff women shout. She hit first he finished it. Thats where the rubber meets the road. If a boy hit him and he hit back he would be the hero.

 

Never should a guy hit a girl but I teach when your hit or swung at strike back. You may argue he pushed her first but she should have walked away.

 

I sugest she break up with him and stay away forever. Because if they are hitting each other now they will later on in life.

 

Might don't make right.

[Athorn4941]

yeah this gets me people teach that hitting girl is wrong. I have know quiet a few women that are great martial artist. this is a terrible double standard that i hope someday will stop. i hope i dont make anyone mad here. if you strike someone be prepared to strike back dont hit if you aint got the guts to take it back. and people saying a slap dont hurt. remeber its still a striking manuever.

[Martial_Artist]

Hmm...tricky predicament. You know, you didn't hit him the day he did it. Now, you're regretting that you didn't. Your time window for appropiate action has passed. To attack now make you come across as the aggressor, and makes it look like you're trying to impress someone and not really defend them. Even to wait for this guy in a dark alley would put you in "bad guy" chair. His actions merited action immediately otherwise the situation dilutes itself and although everyone wants to 'pound' this guy, the time window for action has moved from APPROPIATE to, now, UNNECESSARY and VIOLENT. Your school leaders will view it in that light. To act now, after the fact, will place you in the light of someone trying to impress someone else, or even someone who has premeditated this all and is not acting out of defensive impulse under the 'heat of the moment.'

 

Your best option is to wait. Wait for this guy to try something again, try to harass your friend again. Even words alone, verbal harassment, after he had assailed her once before, would be justification to step in and introduce yourself. Just wait for him to make the first move, if he doesn't then he truly is a coward and there is no need to hit him. If he does then by all means lay waste to him. The image you project will greatly fortifiy your position for action. If he does cower down, then you still stood up for your lady friend and that image is always good.

 

Sadly, though, you missed your opportunity for appropiate action the moment he punched her. Then, under the intensity of the moment, it would have been justified to bloody the guys' nose. Now, however, things are more tricky. For now, calm down. Action at this moment is foolish. Gather your thoughts and forget about vengence. Vengence, inappropiately, will get you no where. Instead of justice being dealt, justice will deal with you and the brunt end of the consquences will fall on you. For now, study and focus on your schoolwork and lady friend. If he appears again confront him and let him know how you feel in words. Let it be HIS choice to fight, not yours. Then, it will be HIS choice to suffer the penalty.

 

That's all you can do for now.

 

ps.

 

If there were truly that many witnesses to the contrary of his report to the headmasters then why has no one else stepped up to challenge his account? Far better would be the result if everyone reported the incident as happened in truth and IN NUMBERS than punching his face in. So much better it is to destroy his potential future than ruin his pathetic present.

 

Be smart. That's all. Violence is not a solution, but a cane we lean upon when at our wits end. The weak minded always resort to violence when losing the battle of the wits. It is the smart man who wins without fighting at all.