a question for all

[Brandon Fisher]

I have a question for everyone. If you have an instructor whether they are asian or not and no matter how loyal or how long you have been with them. Do you do whatever and I mean whatever they say without question? Do you allow them to beat you to the point your body is black from the severe buising and then get up in the morning and thank them for it?

If you have an instructor who is not sensitive to a health problem even if it was something you have had since birth and they tell you to do something but you physically can’t do you ask them for help?

Things have happened in the past 24 hours that made me think about this and wonder what others thought.

[Dont call me Sir]

Walk and keep walking! You don not need to train under people like that.

Instructors who behave like that make my blood boil!

Brandon, I've read your posts before and you seem a very likable person, someone who is intelligent and hard working. I think that you may already know the answers to your questions.

I wish you all the best.

DCMS.

Edited May 20, 2006 by Don't call me Sir!

[ps1]

Absolutely not. My Shotokan Sensei, who died just recently, would not even say the name of his first instructor. This was because of a situation just like yours. His first instructor believed that a class was beating up on all of the students.

My suggestion would be to get out. There are too many quality instructors in this world for you to stick yourself with an @**ho*e like that.

I wish you the best.

[DokterVet]

You should question everything everyone tells you. Whether it is your parents, peers, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, math teacher, priest, doctor, swimming instructor, martial arts instructor doesn't matter.

Everyone should be considerate regarding your medical problem, and nobody should abuse you.

Think about it. Is the way he treats you right? If you know in your heart/gut that it is not, then you don't need that person in your life.

There are millions of people in the world to learn martial arts from.

[patusai]

Respect and loyalty works both ways. Abuse is abuse and must not be tolerated no matter how technically good they are. Instructors that abuse should be jailed. They are men/women just like you and me. They arenot gods or kings. My opinion

[Kieran-Lilith]

Nobody has the right to manipulate, hurt, or injure another being in any way, shape or form. Not one person on this earth has that right.

I know that is how some instructor's train their students, and hard training is good sometimes. But being beat black isn't good. I don't know the exact situation you have there, but from the things you say on this site, I'm pretty certain you're an intelligent guy. I think you know that it's not right already. Just sometimes, you aren't sure, and you want someone else to confirm it because your own little world is too shaky and scary to believe a thing you think.

I wish you the best, and I hope you do what you need to do.

[bushido_man96]

It sounds to me like this guy is trying to feed his ego by intimidating everyone. These people are not worth being around, and are not worthy to call themselves teachers or instructors.

If you are in this situation, getting out is probably a good thing. Nobody learns anything by getting beat up.

[Brandon Fisher]

Thank you all. I have been away from my instructor since February and we are a month away from opening my first store front dojo. I knew what was right but given the situation it was really ripping on me because these people have now ganged up on me to try to trash my name. Well I guess thats their choice but they said they would not attend a tournament hosted by a mutual friend in Pittsburgh if I was there. The directors of the tournament decided they would still invite both of us and it was up to them if they chose not to come. They felt it was their loss. Besides that one top ranking of the 3 directors who is the mutual friend slept on his couch last night because his wife said he shouldn't have even had to think about it.

I appreciate the compliments and hope one day I can meet some of you. I throughly enjoy this forum among a couple others and wish I had found them sooner.

[bushido_man96]

Good luck in opening your dojo.

[Brandon Fisher]

Good luck in opening your dojo.

Thank you