A question of morales

[getawaytkd]

confront him yourself, if you feel uncomfortable then tell the senior instructor. you shouldnt leave a class that you want to be in just because of someone who makes you uncomfortable.

[SatyagrahaKF]

Thanks for the help guys, problem is he is the senior instrucor (I should have mentioned that earlier). He does tell these during class as well.

[getawaytkd]

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[shotokanbeginner]

Thanks for the help guys, problem is he is the senior instrucor (I should have mentioned that earlier). He does tell these during class as well.

This seems quite inappropriate, however it may have been all he has been taught by family or religion, therefore tell him how you feel and how it makes everyone uncomfortable. He should know that does not belong in the dojo or anywhere for that matter, times have changed. I don't think you should leave unless after your request he continues.

[KarateK]

I don't believe that that kind of attitude or behaviour is appropriate in a human being - let alone someone who is in a position of responsibility, teaching and influencing others.

I really had to stop myself here from going into an all out rant - but people like him make me furious.

[jaymac]

It is absolutely horrible that this man can even consider himself a teacher. Just the fact that you are questioning it, proves that you know deep down that it is wrong and you feel you need to leave. You can find other Martial Arts instructors/schools. I am sure that this "sifu" has been doing this for a long time and many are aware of it. I personally would not want to be associated with an organization that felt that way, because it reflects on you, even though those aren't your beliefs. But I would make sure before I left, that I told him exactly why I was leaving and say that you would not be recommending his business to anyone.

[Whitefeather]

Step #1:

Talk to your sifu in private, voice your concerns/peeves/thoughts with the utmost of courtesy (if you are rude about it, you will just blow it).

Step #2:

If he listens, thinks about it carefully, displays some sense of decency, and either gives a bloody darn good explanation or says that he will stop, and actually does, then pat yourself on the back for having helped the situation a bit and run like the wind. If he does not listen to you/scoffs/listens but then sluffs it off, run faster than the wind. The exception would be if he breaks down sobbing and is quite sorrowful about his wrongs, and never does them again (or some equivalent of that image), then it would probably be safe to stay at that dojo.

Just like everybody else says, you should talk to him firstly over everything else, just like you would want someone to talk to you about a vice they had with you before they just storm out. But nonetheless, that problem is a bit more than just a vice, and I would not reccomend staying at that dojo, unless the above exception is fulfilled. If the sifu does not have any issues throwing out such remarks, than there is no telling what other standards of his are unfortunately low, and that is dangerous. Not a good place.

David

[bushido_man96]

Thanks for the help guys, problem is he is the senior instrucor (I should have mentioned that earlier). He does tell these during class as well.

Get out. If you don't, and people find out the reputation of the school, that reputation will be pinned on you by everyone that knows about it.

[ps1]

Wow!!! Definitely inappropriate!! Talk with your Sifu and do not delay. Attempt to be respectful, but given his/her blatant disrespect, you need not be too cordial. Your feelings should be very clear.

[SatyagrahaKF]

I am pretty sure I am going to find a new school...