Feeling Blue

[Spirit At Choice]

Divorce stinks! I do not regret getting divorced; being divorced is better than being married, in this instance. But it still stinks.

My ex-husband has always over-estimated how much money he is going to get, and under-estimated how much money he has to spend. But now he has assumed that I am giving him 50% of what I will make off the sale of my house.

I agreed to pay some debts that had been accrued because of owning the house, even though I think he should stand up and be responsible for them. But, since he hasn't paid back a personal loan we took out for the down payment of the house nine years ago (not one cent in nine years!) I told him I would pay family back from the proceeds of the sale.

He is treating me like I am cheating him. It makes me so sad. I feel like I am being not merely fair, but generous.

But his logic has always eluded me. He told our kids that I am "losing it" because I take karate. He told them (my kids say) that I am paranoid because I got into karate for self-defense, and that I am a hypocrit because I say I believe tolerance and non-violent communication yet I am learning to fight. Nevermind that I have a very good reason for learning self-defense (namely a stalker-- who, thank God, seems to have lost interest in me. No sign of him for more than a month! Woohoo!!!)

Any way... just a vent. I am sad today.

[marie curie]

I hope you feel better!!! I know sometimes people don't really understand our taking martial arts. I'm a very strong beleiver in a non-violent approach if possible, but I train tons in Martial Arts for fun and just in case someone angry at me does not believe in a non-violent approach. I think that after the craziness of the money situation and all the change settle things should be better for you. You are in my prayers until then!

[Menjo]

I'm glad MA has given you a solid foundation for dealing with daily issues that tend to get us really down, some alot heavier than others.

The good news is that from what I've been taught is your martial art is really being put to use in your daily life.

Good luck.

[Spirit At Choice]

Thanks guys. I do feel loads better today. I had a good class last night. I'm puting a lot of energy into the upcoming kata tournament, and just in general trying to follow the advice I regularly dispense to others: just concentrate on yourself and be the best person you can be; let others do the same.

[aefibird]

Sorry to hear of your troubles. Keep training hard at Karate - it's worth it, despite what your ex might say!!

[HumanTyphoon]

Yeah I hope you feel better. You know what helps me feel better when I feel blue and down is developing a philosophy on martial arts or something you like. For instance....

I like to freestyle rap and rhyme at the top of my head. I study my vocabulary sometimes(haha, how nerdy) and then look at any object in the room and as quickly as possible, find a rhyme for each object. It's good for reflexes.

So when I apply it to martial arts, I can 'freestyle' and use moves and techniques that suit the mood and situation at almost anytime. As well as that, it has helped me see situations and react better and more mature.