a martial artist's girl problems

[Son Goku the monkeyking]

okay were do i begin, alright im a freshman in high school, and there is a girl who is really, really, fine who is also one of my best friends in my school, cuss she kinda crazy, &fun, for me to hang out with. oh and also really fine. But there is a problem, we will, always be friends and all that, but, she RECENTLY, got a boy friend ( HE AINT ME ) i thought i would just get over her, but it is not easy at all i still really like her.

i was trying to find someone else who would just take my mind of her but, the only problem with that is that the only other girl i like i hardly ever see. and tons and tons a boys be trying to get with her, and she barely no my name. so what should i do to take my mind of thegirl i like, she nows, i like her, and she nows, i am trying to get over her even though i be hanging out with alot. what's a young martial artist to do.

PEACE

[Adonis]

If you want to get over her don't hang out with her. To be honest other wise its going still drive you crazy. Go talk to other girls.

your stuck in the friend zone brother, and its almost an impossible to get out.

[Mr. Mike]

so this other gal barely knows your name? walk up and introduce yourself. Ask her out. See if she's game. If not, don't get bummed...try again. There must be more 'fine' gals out there. Dude, I remmeber 9th grade like it was yesterday...you're right in the middle of a dating pool and don't even realize it. Open your eyes, sieze the day. No confidence? Think of it this way, if 75% of all girls you ask out will say no, then 2 of every 8 will say yes. Look for the answer 'no.' Then once you get it, you won't be so crushed...plus you may just be surprised.

oh and brush up that confidence...apparently this is the no. 1 thing in women's polls that they look for.

[fallen_milkman]

I was in a similar situation, and I must say I agree with Mr. Mike. I asked a female friend straight out one day why she thought no girls seemed interested in me. Apparently, I lack confidence. MA is supposed to help with that, so I guess I just need to look on the bright side and use my non-relationship oriented schedule to train like crazy!

[Adonis]

Mike is write start asking people out, yeah you will get no's but it isn't the end of the world some one will say yes. have a good time and enjoy it.

because more you ask more confidence it will build in you.

[Pacificshore]

You are a freshman, you will come into your own in time

[Son Goku the monkeyking]

If you want to get over her don't hang out with her. To be honest other wise its going still drive you crazy. Go talk to other girls.

your stuck in the friend zone brother, and its almost an impossible to get out.

yes i am trying to get over her, but she is still one of my very best buddy's in school, i dont want to drop hanging out with her like yesterdays trash all because she wont go with me because she got somebody else allready, because i would not want her to do that to me, plus she would probelly think im i am just trying to go with some1 else 2 get back at her.

[Superfoot]

Just relax my friend. Don't get worried. Some of us have been in that situation.

It may be a good idea not to hang out with her much. Don't blank her totally, just don't make it a plan to go and meet her. If you both bump into each other, fine, go from there, but it may be better not to approach her while you feel like this or you may end up having to endure the pain of watching the girl you love get loved by someone else. Like I said, it may be a good idea...not the best...but may.

Regarding confidence, it's best you keep busy and undertake certain activities that bring out the best in you. Go rock-climbing, archery, something that tests your skills. Soon, you will realise all your good characteristics developing, some you didn't even know of and you wont feel the need to rely on other people for an ego-boost, once you realise what you yourself are capable of, and what your limits are. Independance is a key facet in confidence. You love youself more than you love other people yes? Then why care what other people think? Just give it a go. Spend some time trying to find what makes you special from others. Maybe you have a good sense of peresverance, or maybe you remain calm under situations. Keep busy with new hobbies, and find out what makes you you. The better you understand yourself, the better other people will. And that includes women.

Learn to search within yourself for happiness. Understand yourself. You're still very young and you have plenty of time to get a girlfriend. There will always be a special place in that girls heart just for you that no-one can replace. Try to find some solace in that.

And remember, girls are human. They make mistakes too. Don't worship them. They are fun to love, but they are not worth your happiness.

Good luck my friend, I hope you find your way.

No disrespect to any women on the forums. I love you all XXX lol. Especially you...you know who you are lol.

Edited November 14, 2005 by Superfoot

[yasureubetcha]

WORSHIP US! Lol, kidding.

Awwww, that's a real pickle. I find myself in a smililar situation with a guy friend at the moment. Although I'm not sure if he knows or not and I don't want to tell him in case it ruins everything.

Don't stop hanging out with her, she wont like that ... although, if you REALLY are going out on a leap try the old "play it mean, keep em keen concept". A guy once told me about that, play it cool, give a little cold shoulder now and then and they'll wonder whats up and voila. Hmmm, I still dunno bout this, but hey!

Sorry us girls are such a pain, but hey, you's are no better! Lol!

[HumanTyphoon]

Ahahahahaha, I remember being a Freshman. Hey, don't take things during that year too seriously bro. Just keep it cool, oh and show confidence and determination. Go work out and do crazy training everyday....usually this leads to someone acknowledging your individual skill that only you possess which then will be heard by lots of people including the girl. MWHAHAHAHAHA! Then, being the great martial artist you are, you will save the girl's life when a bunch of outer space aliens arrive to kidnap her claiming she is queen of Melgib-Sun Tribe!

(NOW FOR THE IMPORTANT PART!!!!!)

But in case this never happens, you should still train and do what you do man. People love a person who does what he does vigourously, always striving to complete his goals. A person who never gives up. Somehow, when people admire them, they sort of become a hero to that person. A wise saying that I just made up right now is "Only when a person has lost all the ability that makes him who he is, is when he has the right to give up." All this trust, hard work, and friendship is important, but if you don't believe in yourself, it will never work. Until the very end, you can never blame anyone if you stopped believing. Besides, even though you may be a nice guy, girls won't like you if you have low self-esteem.