Dating someone that goes to the same school as u?

[RDsynMBZ]

Hey some people ive talked to say that they would want to date someone at the same school as them and others say its really good if u do i like a girl at the school i go to but idk if i should ask her out or not any tips?

[Goju_boi]

in public school or martial arts school?

[Maddwraph]

its tempting, but becareful. if the relationship ends bad, it hard for both people to come to the same dojo and see each other. but hey, you cant stop love can ya?

[Goju_boi]

I'm in the same problem at my dojo,but she only comes once a week so I can't really get to know her.

[Mr. Mike]

I actually discourage this depending upon the maturity of the two. If things go downhill, training can become very awkward. If the two can keep it at a higher level, then all should be well. I actually had my ex(and mother of my youngest) coem and look into training with us...that would have been hard, so I asked the head instructor to talk to her. He simply told her that whatever problem you have with mike stays outside that door...don't bring it here. Funny thing, I never saw her again.

THere is this one gal that I sometimes end up spending way too much time with, but two things stop me from pursuing it. First is that I'm 10 years older and an instructor, while she is a lower belt student...that may not work so well. Second is the fact that I just don't have the energy to keep up with all the going out and the nightlife. WEll, there are a few more reasons...one is that I plan to relocate to TX next Sept. That just wouldn't work.

I guess in short, if you wnat to go out with her, keep it on a higher level, be mature enough to realize that if things don't work, there was MA training before her, and there will be MA training after her...it's up to you how you react to it.

[younwhagrl]

Well said Mike!! I've seen so many relationships in MA that work out! There was this girl I used to train (I say used to b/c she doesnt train anymore) with that actually started dating my instructor two days after they met, and married like 5 months later and now they have a baby that is two weeks old! and my other instructor is getting married to girl in MA. if you guys really like each other u know...it'd be a really nice thing to date a girl/guy in MA that u are in..u guys can train together outside of class!

[Goju_boi]

"u guys can train together outside of class!"

lol,that would be cool,but I don't know if that would be a big part of the relationship.

Anyways Mr.Mike what part of Texas are you moving to?

[younwhagrl]

r u making fun of me? lol!!

[Shotochick]

I would never date a student (and when I was a student Iwould never hav e dared date a BB at my school). That said - if you are on or around eh same level then I see nothing wrong with it - provided when/if you ever break up you are both mature to keep training together and not beat the heck out of each other!

Ask yourself now - are you able to do that. If the answer is no - wait a few years or look elsewhere.

[Adonis]

thats something for you to decide. Can you handle still going to the same school and being around her if the relationship goes sour? Not to mention some people keep things discreet others. Like to broadcast to any one who will listen their relationship woes. So could be a chance every one at the school here's your business. Hopefully none of that happens to you.

On the flip side.

It can go well. Share something in common, which strengthens bond of a relationship.

Do what you feel is right.