homecoming troubles ( ahh crap)

[24fightingchickens]

I remember this horrible stuff from when I was a teenager. Oh, it was awful. I was always worried about wearing the right clothes, driving the right car, and stuff like that.

I wish I knew then what I know now - girls don't care about that kind of thing as much as you think they do. That's not how you land a realy great girlfriend.

And the really cool thing about your beat junk heap car is that it is "evil girl repellent." It may not look like it to you now, but if I were 16 or whatever again, I would thank God for my beat junk heap car, because it chased off the shallow money grubbing useless girls that were no fun at all.

A really great girl to spend time with just breezes past that kind of thing. She might even get a kick out of it if you are pretty secure with yourself. Women like a man who is secure with himself - who doesn't mind being a little silly and having a laugh at his own expense. Dress nice, and drive your junk heap with pride. Speak of your car as if it were a limo, and hold yourself up tall.

And the two of you can laugh at the car together. If she thinks its shameful to be seen in it, she's a crummy kid, and she's telling you so in plenty of time to ditch her in favor of someone else.

If you want to truly charm a woman, then what you do is stop investing time and energy in your things, and instead invest time and energy in her. Find out everything about her - all of her favorite stuff from her favorite color to her favorite food. Ask her about her day. Be the best listener on Earth. Don't tell her a thing about yourself or rant or run-on about anything about you. Women want a man who listens to them.

When you figure that secret out, that women like attention, true listening, honest concern for them, and a guy who is secure, the world is your oyster dude.

And on how to dress? The best "trick" I ever learned from a mentor of mine about how to ask a girl out to something was to ask her to go shopping with me and dress me up nice for a date with her. Let her pick out the clothes. Women like that helpless puppy dog thing where you respect their opinion.

And the really cool thing is, you will actually be dressed well for the first time in your life.

I agree with the others - if you go out set to impress, she will see right through you as an insecure attention hound who wants to win her over and get validation from her. A good woman can smell that on a guy from a mile away. Instead, be secure with yourself, which means not being afraid to acknowledge your dorkiness. Sometimes the best way to ask a girl out is to start off with, "Wow. I'm really a lot more nervous than I thought I'd be, but you're just so..." and let the magic happen from there.

Trust me.

If you cannot get a date with the girl you want to go with, maybe you are being a little overly choosy? Maybe there is a girl who likes you that you aren't even noticing right under your nose who is cute while you are over-focused on the playmate of the month. She might even be sending you signals that she wants you to ask her.

And, all of this advice is useless if you cannot view being rejected as another step in the right direction. Guys who get girls are not afraid to pile up rejection all over the place. Eventually, you get a "yes."

[Shorinryu Sensei]

I totally agree with 24fightingchickens! Dang good advise!

One thing I would add on your car though is that women like cleanlkiness. Meaning, clean the McDonald's french frie boxes out from under the seat, vacuum, clean, dust, wax and in general, make your car as clean as you possibly can. Nothing turns off a woman more than having to get in a car with her nice heels and dress on and have to worry about getting ketchup/mustard on her shoes because of the garbage on the floor or seat.

Pay special attention to clean seats and windows also...both inside and out. Wash the door panels throughly, get rid of old bumper stickers that are faded, torn, offensive or out of date (Save the whales.GreenPeace, Bon Jovi Rules:D ).

This also goes for you. If nobody's told you yet, bathe daily, use deoderant, shave daily (even if you don't think you need to), keep your leather shoes shined (tennies clean), no wrinkles in t-shirts or any other sort of clothing, brush your teeth often (want to kiss that young lady? She won't if your breath sucks!)

Another thing to keep in mind is that a 16 year old girl is generally a whole lot more mature than a 16 year old boy. Showing off your bodily functions is NOT funny to a girl, nor is showing off how tough you are (as in getting into fights). Do some reasearch on how to be a gentleman on a date, such as opening/closing doors for a woman, picking her up on a date by going to the door and meeting her parents (VERY scarey sometimes), BEING ON TIME is very important, be respectful, getting her home when she is supposed to be, even a bit early. Impressing her parents is a good thing because no matter how well the girl likes you, if the parents don't, you're DOOMED!

Hey 24fightingchickens, we should write a book on teen dating!

[Why_Worry]

Really good advice 24fighintchickens and really good advice too shorinryu sensei. I'm thirteen but i've been having trouble with something liek this except its alo tmore confusing, its kidna liek one of those drama shows you see on t.v. except its not liek the problem is a dance, but whatever. Just felt like saying good advice guys.

[Kieran-Lilith]

Well, my own life has turned into a soap opera again...hate it when that happens....

To those non-Americans who do not understand our terms:

Freshman (Frosh, Freshies): Student in first year of high school

Sophomore (Sophs): Student in second year of high school

Junior: Student in year three of HS

Senior: Student in fourth, and last (hopefully) year of HS.

Homecoming: Fall Dance, really big and important that one goes or one is labelled a geek for all eternity and times to come. Ummm....there's a football game, and they have a whole HC court and King and Queen, and the Queen has her attendants...

Prom: Kind of like HC, but only for Juniors and Seniors and it's even more important. And the dresses are frilly-er and poofy-er. HC dresses are...tighter, show off more, usually. At least, around here that's how it is.

After-Prom: Events that last all night after the dance to keep as many kids from going out and getting drunk as possible.

[b3n]

Thanks for that