Going out with someone in your school

[Atalanta071]

I am slightly confused on the whole "Is it allowed to go out with someone in the MA school" thing. Well, what I meant to say is, I am unsure if it is allowed. I have resigned to the fact my green-belt friend is my boyfriend, but we met in school, not in Karate classes. We do partner with each other as much as possible, sometimes he's the one to get a bit "frisky", but we control ourselves for the most part. About the worst thing that happens is that we lose our concentration occasionally. We mainly flirt with each other during non-karate time. So I was basically wondering if it would be okay to go out with him, even though we are in the same school. I would ask my own Sensei, but I don't want to be kicked out of the school. Comments please?

[Yamamatsu]

Well, the same situation is observed when dating in the workplace, but I don't see a problem with it. But I would attempt to pretend while at the MA school to imagine he isn't there, and keep concentration. Other than that, I don't see anything wrong.

[Atalanta071]

The difficult part would be to pretend he does not exist. I do not see him often during summer vacation and I really do enjoy being around him. I shall work on it, though...

[Sam]

Look at the thread: http://www.karateforums.com/viewtopic.php?t=2809

Really long discussion about the problems / considerations with dating in school.

[innocui]

As long as you don't get down and dirty in the middle of the class, there shouldn't be a problem...One of my instructors is married to a black belt he met in class. He treats her like the rest of us

[Holland]

Alas, I am not allowed to date anyone at my school...

Of course, my wife is a black belt at my school, so you can imagine that she would not take too kindly to me going out with one of the other students.

As for everyone else, its all good at my school.

[lordtariel]

Does your instructor come across as someone who would kick you out over something like that? Odds are he probably won't. You could ask him if he dissaproves of dating in the school. You don't have to tell him you are. To me, it's fine as long as you keep class as training time and not flirty time. But, if you're going to class just to play around, why go at all? I also recommend partnering with other people during practice, otherwise you'll not get as rounded of an experience with your techniques.

[Sohan]

Never date someone who can kick your butt. :)Other than that, go ahead.

Respectfully,

Sohan

[Whitefeather]

Never date someone who can kick your butt. :)Other than that, go ahead.

Words to be heeded diligently.

David

[jaymac]

There shouldn't be a problem with the fact that you two are dating, but I am concerned that you are flirting and losing concentration during classes. This would be looked upon in our dojo as being very disrespectful to the person teaching and to the others who are witness to it. Be mature in class and take your classes responsibly. You are setting the example of students lower ranked than you. Have your flirting and fun time outside of the dojo.