Getting bullied, tactics?

[P.A.L]

Flank,the problem you have is not about a pressure point or a eagle claw, it's about your way of thinking and looking into this problem, if you ask me i would say in university try to be nice with him but as soon as he starts the * you got to stand up, putiing up with oppressor just make him more abusive, let me tell you a story, I was not a bully in high school but we had a small group like 3-4 of us,there was this slim and weak classmate we been enjoying harassing him verbally, it was like that till one day he came right at me a punched me in the face after 2 years, I didn't even try to hit him back since he was not in my level any way, he didn't scared me but made me think over and he had our respect from that day, even if i beat the crap out of him that day ,he already had made his point. I am not inviting you to be violent but some times and in some points you have to make a decision you may get beaten but it won't be like before after that .

[Flank]

Flank,the problem you have is not about a pressure point or a eagle claw, it's about your way of thinking and looking into this problem, if you ask me i would say in university try to be nice with him but as soon as he starts the * you got to stand up, putiing up with oppressor just make him more abusive, let me tell you a story, I was not a bully in high school but we had a small group like 3-4 of us,there was this slim and weak classmate we been enjoying harassing him verbally, it was like that till one day he came right at me a punched me in the face after 2 years, I didn't even try to hit him back since he was not in my level any way, he didn't scared me but made me think over and he had our respect from that day, even if i beat the crap out of him that day ,he already had made his point. I am not inviting you to be violent but some times and in some points you have to make a decision you may get beaten but it won't be like before after that .

 

If I did that (especially in uni) wouldn't I become the perpotrator? (spelling). I could get expelled...

[Skeptic 2004]

Flank, you already know that this is kinda of a soft topic for me after reading my original post before I changed it...you'll have to make up your own mind on how to handle the problem. As a parting shot, I've seen 1kickKO's signature before, but I never really paid it any attention until just a second ago. It's actually very appropriate for this discussion:

 

"If instead of fighting with him you say to your enemy, 'You have won' and bow before him, that is the biggest deed in the world."

[1kickKO]

I chose it for a reason

[Flank]

ok, I understand, it is definately a difficult topic to discuss (I am not even sure if this is the right place to discuss it *looks at title "General MARTIAL ARTS"*, lol). But thanks for all your help guys, it's helped a lot.

 

Cheers

 

Flank

[1kickKO]

No problem, let us know how that martial art goes.

[krzychicano]

Yes im curious to find out also so keep us updated!

[chiflow]

Flank,

 

My heart comes to you in this tough situation.

 

I hope our advise leads to a safe resolution. As a person who has been in your situation more than once in the past i have to say, be true to yourself. A man can walk away..you have to gauge what the best corse of action is as there are several kinds of bullys. some you can stand up to and never hear from them again. some will increase there harrassment..

 

my advise is some options, but i hope you chose one that results in no violence as, when you involve violence that no one wins..

 

what has worked best for me is give them what they want (sarcastically and litterally at the same time) and make a huge scene... without violence

 

in other words. bullies want to feel tough and cool if you embarrass them you turn the situation around on them and you are no longer a fun target and they get bored with you. bullies also want easy targets, if hes gonna harrass you make him pay for it in a small way

 

in other words if he comes up to take you lunch and push you around "SCREAM AND YELL DUDE IF YOU ARE SO HUNGRY AND IT MAKES YOU FEEL COOL HELP YOURSELF HERE I HAVE SOME MILK TOO< DONT FORGET THAT!!!" "OH LOOK THE BIG GUY IS PUSHING THE LITTLE GUY AROUND WOW THIS GUY MUST BE REALLY COOL TO BE ABLE TO PUSH A SMALLER PERSON LIKE ME AROUND"

 

I have had to defend myself several times and i was never proud, but when i walked away knowing i could have fought that when i was proud of who i have trained to be. I train so i dont have to fight and not train so i can fight

 

follow this : "walk your way from trouble, talk your from trouble and as a LAST resort defend yourself not to hurt maim or kill" JUKADO (MAINE) MOTTO

 

SORRY FOR THE BOOK

[Cmon]

Man if you goto Uni and he is not mature im sure he will drop out after a few weeks because uni is a big step upwards from college.

 

On a lighter note, if you are rich have him....silenced....

[Cmon]

In addition, like Chiflow said make a scene. if he grabs hold of your shoulders and starts pulling you say something like "STOP TOUCHING ME WILL YOU, GOD ANYONE WOULD THINK YOU FANCIED ME!"