physical confrontations

[kle1n]

Hi guys!

 

Have you guys ever had any physical confrontations with an important message or advice that you learnt from the confrontations?

 

Would be good if you could post what happend and then tell us what you learnt from them combined with some advice if you want

 

thank you

[kotegashiNeo]

Okay this is important watch your distance a solid head butt will ruin your day plus if you are committed to defend yourself be absolutely resolute do not back down one inch. Lastly if a street fighter turns away expect the sucker shot and keep your hands up real important

[STR33T GUY]

I really believe that most people don’t want to fight. Even when they are talking tough, inside they don’t want there to be a fight. And once the fight starts they really just want it to end.

 

But then there are some people who do like to fight. They are filled with hate and anger and they want to hurt someone real bad. These people care little about what happens to them physically or legally.

[kickcatcher]

1st rule of SD: If you are going to hit someone, make sure that you hit them bloody hard!

 

Other tips include pre-emption and not taking your eyes of the attacker -although this becomes near on impossible if there is more than one adversary.

[Myst]

Over the years, I've learned that "big" doesn't necessarily mean "strong", and "small" doesn't always mean "weak". Ok, scenario: I was a 4 ft 4 in. nine year old girl, about 70 lbs. at a sparring competition. For some reason, I was paired with a tall, enormous guy. I thought, "Ok, I'm dead meat." But when the round began, I learned that I could use my small size to my advantage. I would get into the red zone, score a point, then get out again. All my opponent could do was deliver a push kick (which would send me flying out of the ring), but I used my speed to avoid his kicks as much as I could, and I ended up winning the match.

[STR33T GUY]

I really believe that most people don’t want to fight. Even when they are talking tough, inside they don’t want there to be a fight. And once the fight starts they really just want it to end.

 

If I’m right then most people can be simply dealt with by appearing strong and by giving them a way out so they save face.

 

Since their scared to begin with, it’s best to keep them scared. That’s the appearing strong part. An example of the saving face part is when you have allegedly insulted the guy’s girlfriend and he feels that he has to do something about it. So you apologize nicely to the to the girlfriend, nine times out of ten the guy will return to his table and tell his friends how he let you off easy.

 

Of course pride often prevents people from giving the other guy a way out. You may have to loose face yourself in order to do it.

[aefibird]

and I ended up winning the match.

 

Congratulations!

 

Nice story - with an important lesson that appearences can be deceptive.

[Grenadier]

Best defense: Avoidance

 

The old saying of "an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of the cure."

 

While most folks here could defeat their opponents in a fight, is it really worth risking injury to one's self? When you fight someone, it's certainly possible you could dislocate, or even break, your fingers and knuckles, even if you're one who "toughened up your hands" with various training techniques. Do you really want to waste 6-8 weeks of time, recovering from such injuries?

 

Of course, most folks would win, as I stated previously, but think about it this way: the losing bully and his buddies (all of whom will eagerly line up in court to provide character witnesses) could sue you, asserting that you, the "crazed kung fu guy" went berzerk and attacked him. Even though you'll most likely win in court, is it worth wasting all of that time and $$$?

 

Many of you have families. Is it worth making another enemy that could have been avoided?

 

Walk away. If they spew insults at you, so be it. You're most likely not going to see such individuals again, anyways, so who cares what they think? Wounded pride isn't a pleasant thing, but in the end, does it matter? It's more important to be the bigger man, by simply stepping aside and defusing a situation.

 

There does, however, come a point where enough is enough. If they simply aren't going let you go without a fight, then by all means, fight with conviction! If it means going to court afterwards, big deal... It's better to be judged by 12, than carried by six.

[aefibird]

Excellent post Grenadier.

[Lenny]

It's better to be judged by 12, than carried by six.

 

I want that on a T-shirt!