girlfriends: need help getting one

[Son Goku the monkeyking]

Hello to everyone at this sight. I't is hard for me to admitte this, please do not laugh at me but I have no game. ANd that is the reason I have not had one in all of my 13 year old life. I need some serious tips in how to spit game and get a girl. Can anyone help me with this problem.

 

HOLLA

[kimura_guy]

Well, Son, all I can tell you(I dont know if itll help you much, or if you even wanna hear it), but just be yourself. You are only 13 years old.....you have plenty of time in your life to find a girlfriend. Why rush it? Enjoy your youth while you have it (I wish I was only 13 again). But if you are yourself and not try to through game, you will find the right one sooner or later.

 

KG

[Son Goku the monkeyking]

Well I do TRY to be myself but a lot of times I do a better way keeping them away from me than atracting them to me, because of the fact that I can never even remeber what I was going to say to the girl if I like her. It could be something as simple as hi and I can't even get it out. And I can't get over that fell of being nervous as hell. That is why I am asking for the help. please respond.

 

Holla

 

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[TheDevilAside]

You're 13, buddy.

 

All I can really tell you is... don't bother, for a number of reasons.

 

1.) You're probably at an all-time low as far as your confidence (in anything) goes, and confidence (the genuine kind) is what it takes to get... uhm... game.

 

2.) Your actions are probably mostly influenced by chemicals in your body, rather than intellectual reason.

 

3.) You have no idea how complex girls are. I won't even go into how confusing relationships are.

 

4.) You'll probably break up and you'll cause yourself 1-100 weeks of misery.

 

I don't want to sound condescending, but I'm just telling you, worrying about it at your age is a big waste of time (and at mine probably too). I was just like you (or similar, anyway) when I was your age. It was pretty much hell, I couldn't even carry on a normal conversation with a girl because I was so unsure of myself. Anyway, moral of the story is, I'm 16 now (almost 17, woohoo) and everything worked out just fine. I'm not scared to approach girls, I can tell a joke without stuttering, and I don't shake and shiver while I'm taking out a girl to a dance, a movie, or something.

 

You'll be fine. Just give yourself time. There isn't really some sort of trick to having "game". Women are attracted to your character, not your playa skillz. And it takes lots of time and experience to build character. Plus, girls and guys your age don't have a clue what they want in someone, and guys and gals my age alike are just starting to find out.

[HumanTyphoon]

You have no idea how complex girls are. I won't even go into how confusing relationships are.

 

 

Man...you got that right....

 

Well...just be yourself with the girls and just talk, carry on a good conversation. You don't have to use any playa skills or pimped up plans, just go up to a girl and start a conversation, you don't know how easily you can be from a stranger to a friend from just a simple chat. Oh, it doesn't hurt to just say things and just "try" to be funny, girls dig a funny man.

[Kaminari]

Plus, girls and guys your age don't have a clue what they want in someone, and guys and gals my age alike are just starting to find out.

 

Exactly. Relationships between kids at the age of 13 very rarely work out. Don't sweat it, and don't rush into dating. It'll happen when it happens.

[KarateChick06]

You could try just being friends with a girl first, so you could get used to talking with girls without being nervous. Yes, be funny. And ditto, ^ Don't worry about it. I'm much older than you and have still never had my "first date" -- I'm at the dojo every night. (Although there is a sensei there I'm crushing on......lol )

[kimura_guy]

I'm much older than you and have still never had my "first date"

 

Just wondering, how "old" are you?

 

KG

[krzychicano]

When i was 13 I had a dozen girlfriends! but then again I got the latino charm working for me

[Gandhi]

Agree with all the above.

 

But also DO NOT try to "convert" self-proclaimed lesbians into heterosexuality, very bad idea for getting girl friends.