wrestlingkaratechamp Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 Ok, do well all agree that if a child as young as 5 or 6 that has just entered school is getting beat up or hit in school then he should be put into some sort of MA program. Right? Well, the question is, should the child that is in kindergarten that is the bully be put into MAs? In example, my nephew has just entered the kindergarten. Hes 5 years old and hes an animal. On the first day of school a little boy refused to share some sort of blocks or something, he hit the boy in the face with a Tonka truck! My sister and her husband have no idea how to deal with this, they are spending a ton of money on anger managment courses ect... When I found out I simple said "HES 5!" Anger managment? My father (the boy's grandfather) then recomended that his parents enroll him into an MA school located in Bay Ridge. He then said that Shotokan karte will build a good character and self esteem. I HONESTLY THINK THIS IS MAKING THE GUY MORE OF A DANGER TO THE KINDERGARTEN SOCIETY. What should they do? PS. He attends the same Catholic school I attended from K-8th
steveb Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 I think that martial arts would help children develop skills that are important in the classroom, such as following simple directions, appropriate behavior, respect for others, etc. Although my children were a bit older, part of the reason why I enrolled them in martial arts was to reinforce these positive behaviors. I would encourage your sister to find a MA school with a good kids program. As far as them having "no idea how to deal with this", a firm "NO" and a swat on the butt worked for mine at that age. Res firma, mitescere nescit
SaiFightsMS Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 In a good martial arts program a child like that will learn self control. The will learn to listen and follow directions. Notice I said a good program. Over the years I have seen the bullies and the ones who got picked on both benefit. Parental involvement is also important.
Red J Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 My sister and her husband have no idea how to deal with this, they are spending a ton of money on anger managment courses ect... Yikes, therapy at five? Sounds like a parenting problem to me or some real serious issues beyond the scope of simply enrolling him into the little ninjas society. I agree with you that MA is not the best choice for every child. Perhaps a family counselor is in order. I had to lose my mind to come to my senses.
wrestlingkaratechamp Posted September 25, 2004 Author Posted September 25, 2004 Well, I happen to know for a fact Red J that the kid is just violent, blame it on the X Box or the movies he watches IE his favorite movie is South Park Bigger Longer and Uncut. Honestly, I think they gave the kid too much slack, they always never spanked him when he curses. They put him in "Time out". Its almost like hes rebelling. They let him do whatever he wants. He watches wresting and plays Mortal Kombat DA on a daily basis.
battousai16 Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 ^...HE'S 5!^ south park? mortal kombat? that stuff was an issue when i was wee, and wee as in 10, not 5!!! good lord! at anyrate, when i was younger i got the wooden spoon to the behind when i was naughty. well, my mom would. my dad didn't need it. hell, after awhile a stern stare is all you'd need to know that you were in big trouble, and you should never do that again. the MA training probably wont do him to much good if he dosen't that slack isn't picked up... that said, i'm no parent, so i'm not one to judge... "I hear you can kill 200 men and play a mean six string at the same time..."-Six String Samurai
CloudDragon Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 Well, the good news is that the kid is still teachable, from my experience as a psychiatric nurse, if it isn't corrected now the child will be, at the least, diagnosed as antisocial. While great for getting a check from the government it will prove useless in the "real world". Martial arts is a good suggestion, in a good program that emphasizes the morals and tenents that pertain to martial arts. Caution must be used so that the child doesn't turn into a well armed heathen. Therapy is an option, not knowing the childs' history I will not venture a guess on this, but , boundaries set and CONSISTENTLY enforced by the parents will prove to be the best for the child, the key is that the parents hang in there when the child is throwing a tantrum and not doing what they want, nobody said it wold be easy, but it will work. Best of luck to your family. A Black Belt is just a white belt that don't know when to quit!
TheDevilAside Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 The parents need to start laying down the law... Yeah, some little kids will be violent. I was, I beat up my cousin's 8 year old 'boyfriend' when I was 5, along with a whole lot of other things. Hehe, I don't remember doing that, but apparently my cousin and my parents do. Anyway, when I did do things like that, my parents let me know pretty clearly that I didn't exactly do the right thing. And now, even though it's taken me 16 years, I've finally gotten the message for the most part. As far as this kid goes, his parents really need to start setting boundaries on his behavior (They let him cuss?). Or else it will just get worse as time progresses. "If you're going through hell, keep going." - Sir Winston Churchill
aefibird Posted September 26, 2004 Posted September 26, 2004 Wow, he's 5 and they're letting him watch South Park and play Mortal Kombat?? No wonder the parents are having trouble with him... Anyway, I agree that martial arts could be a good thing for that boy. A GOOD school that emphasises respect, discipline, self-control, etc etc could really transform that child's life. A family counselor to help the parents take control of their child might also be in order. "Was it really worth it? Only time and death may ever tell..." The Beautiful South - The Rose of My CologneSheffield Steelers!
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