Engineering Education - while single

[Ironberg]

Okay, I'll get straight to the point as best as I can. Firstly, I've never been fortunate enough to have a girlfriend in highschool. With the years of being the unpopular guy among legions of clicks, I tried to be friends with two girls, and gave up. One month in the summer, I pulled myself together; hoping that I'd be able to find someone in college even though I was afraid of the girl-to-guy ratio (1-2). It turns out that it is worse than I thought, engineering is the thing here (ladies don't like engineering very much for some unknown reason). College is turning out to be a rather solitary existence in more ways than just females (the lack of girls being the worst) and I'm wondering what your advice is to me.

[battousai16]

just say hi. there's always someone who's as lonely as you are, and it's not like everyone there is inherently evil. i find it works best to talk about clothing or jewlery, or if it applies, tattoos. people always like to talk about their stuff, espcially their ink.

[Ironberg]

I've got no ink, and no jewery either.

 

I got so close last week, but the first gal already had a boyfriend and didn't seem interested, and the second girl was just, well, interested in someone else.

[delta1]

Look elsewhere. Get involved in other things where girls hang out. And concentrate on your education now, even if you are a little lonely. Once you get married and have a family, it is tough to finish your degree.

[battousai16]

I've got no ink, and no jewery either.

 

well, you're not supposed to talk about yours if i were, say, in england for some reason and decided to hit on aefibird, i'd look at her kanji tattoo and say "hey, i like your tattoo, what does that mean?" or "hey, i dig that, is there a story behind that?" or something to that end. because people can drone on about their ink for hours. i really can't explain it. or jewlery, or clothing. if all else fails, a "hello" generally does the trick. and i disagree whole heartedly with delta 1. as far as i've seen, university has absolutely no purpose outside of picking up members of the opposite sex

 

oh, and bookstores are a wonderful thing. at any given time you can find a whole gaggle of attractive young women looking for intelligent conversation. y'know, just FYI

[DLopez]

Well, I hope you persevere through your engineering studies and join the club! What branch of engineering are you studying? I am EE myself.

 

You have a tough choice to make, I'm afraid. You have to choose if you're going to focus on your studies or on relationships. If your studies are anything like mine, there is probably very little time spent away from studying and preparing for the next test.

 

Actually, I never had much luck finding dates with girls on campus as it seemed they all usually had boyfriends already. Believe it or not, I found I got more dates by going to the local night clubs (yeh, meat markets - but that's where the guys met girls and vice versa) and just striking up a conversation with girls that didn't look like they were there with a guy. However, I couldn't do that as much as I liked because I had my studies always to stay on top of.

 

I know it's tough right now, but getting your engineering degree should be #1 on your priorities list. Don't let anything get in the way of getting your degree. You'll have the rest of your life to work on relationships.

[battousai16]

well, you know, if you're gonna' be sensible about it... not me, though, i'm an english major!

[Drunken Monkey]

engineering?

 

mechanical?

 

structural?

 

civic?

 

hmm, if it's the building variety, go hang around the architecture department.....

 

lots of girls....

 

well, around here there are.

[Bad_Vibes]

So don't you have to take a few hours of humanities and all the other garbage like comp I and poli sci the first couple of years. Should be more females in those classes.

 

In any case I'll tell you the best way attract women. Already have a girlfriend and the opportunities will be everywhere. Murphy's law, it sux. Don't have a girlfriend and you can't find a girl that will even look at you. It's something about the vibe you put out. Try convincing yourself it doesn't matter and mabey you will be putting that vibe out.

 

And forget the whole don't chase girls while in engineering thing. Even if you have to study 12 hours a day, well that still leaves half the day to train and spend time with one. Your young, you don't need much sleep. And if you are having to spend 12 hours a day studying 7 days a week, then engineering is not a natural gift our yours anyway and you should probably be doing something else. Who wants to spend the rest of their lives doing a profession that they have to work twice as hard at to be as good as the other nerds.

 

Oh and try to take that freshmen orientation class as many times as you can. Your bound to meet a nice girl in there. Good luck.

[Ironberg]

I appreciate your replies.

 

Seriously, this has become a rather easy year for me (my highschool did a very good job preparing me). After freshman year, I won't have the same amount of time - the studies will put my nose to the grinder, so to speak.

 

I'm studying software engineering. As a matter of fact, I chose this major because gasping computer science concepts comes naturally for me. Not to brag, I'm just saying that I have had many a lonely hour wandering the campus, and/or trying to find someting to do in the dorm. I got involved with the TKD club on campus - a very good one at that. However, guess who shows up for her first lesson last night: Ms. "I Already Have A Boyfriend" that I mentioned in my last post. It's a mad conspiracy, I tell you.