John G Posted March 30, 2004 Posted March 30, 2004 Dijita, See if your instructor can help you practise various rape scenarios so at least you wont feel totally helpless if (god forbid) you find your self in such a situation. Personally if it was me (and yes guys can get raped) I would have to be completely overwhelmed, killed or knock out before I would succumb. AIDS can be just as bad as being killed. Ultimately the decision is yours. Beka, you made the right decision at the time. Respectfully, John G Jarrett III Dan, ITF Taekwon-Do
Sorynn Posted March 30, 2004 Posted March 30, 2004 (edited) Beka, I too am sorry for the incident that happened to you. A quick point on running from a weapon... I was watching a show where a police academy traininer was talking about murders committed with handguns, and he said the FBI stats show that 90% of all fatal shootings happen at a distance of 10 feet or less. So, if I can put 10 feet or an obstacle between me and the attacker, I am running for it. As to the original question. I do not think I could adequately empathize what it would be like for the woman. However, I would risk fighting someone with a weapon if it was my wife or mother or sister or daughter. Edited March 30, 2004 by Sorynn
crash Posted March 30, 2004 Posted March 30, 2004 questions like this are always hard to answer because if or when something like this actually happens it will rarely play out how you imagined, example: if you are attacked, the attacker most likely isnt going to attack you in a way your training partner would. forcefullness is going to be 100% more intense, as will language, he will try to dominate you, demean you, belittle you, and so on. this is all meant to catch you off guard and shock you into not fighting back, and more times than not it works, even on ppl who think they have prepared themselves for this type of attack. so dont fall into a "if it happens this way or that way" trap, expect anything and everything to go wrong. train to be flexible and to adapt. also realize if the attacker has a knife and you must fight back, you are going to be cut. realize this now to prevent the shock when it happens. if you dont beleive me, just try this, have someone attack you with a magic marker( in place of a knife) and see how many "cuts" you get before you disarm him. I think the best advice for situations like this are to always be very aware of your surroundings. notice everything. if you see someone following you as you walk, then pick up the pace, if they do the same then run. try not to put yourself in areas where attacks are most likely to happen and if you do find yourself in an area where you feel unsafe then exit the area a.s.a.p..and never enter a vehicle or bldg. with someone you are not familiar with. be aware and be safe.
Rich_2k3 Posted March 30, 2004 Posted March 30, 2004 Dijita, Have a look at the book "SAS Self-defence", its for males and females, but a large portion of the book is solely targeted at females. There is a large section on rape, and it doesnt just tell u how to defend ur self but how to avoid conflict, from a phsycological point of view to basic stratagies & tactics. The chapters are: Introduction "The problem" Fitness The Law The Basics of Self Defence Common Attacks Defensive Moves Attacks on Women Protecting Your Property Vehicle Safety Travel Attacks by Dangerous Animals and Insects Medical Emergencies I've read through the book and it really is brilliant, plus its got detailed colour pictures throughout. I cant stress enough how invaluable this book is, it literally tells you everything about self defence and generally looking after ur self, very good book. Heres a link to buying book, read reviews: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0004723015/qid=1080660617/sr=8-1/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i1_xgl14/002-1655470-8600018?v=glance&s=books&n=507846 "When my enemy contracts I expand and when he expands I contract" - Bruce Lee
Dijita Posted March 30, 2004 Author Posted March 30, 2004 Becka, I'm sorry to hear that you were a victim of such a crime. I don't think anyone should ever have to go through that, and it's unfortunate that so many people do. Thank you everyone for participating in this discussion. I have found it to be informative, and I hope that it has been an eye opener to many of you. Rich_2k3, thanks for the link to that book, I will definately check it out. Thanks to everyone else for their advice and words of wisdom.
Reklats Posted March 31, 2004 Posted March 31, 2004 Get a can of mace. If you're going to hold something in your hand while you're walking to your car it's much better than a key.
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