kle1n Posted March 23, 2004 Author Posted March 23, 2004 yeah i think i am the brick type a girl waved at me today and i didnt react cause i thought she wanted to play some joke on me then my friends called me an idiot and i noticed how negative i think about women. must have been caused in my youth by some kind of incident or something. cause everytime i see a woman i get negative emotions the same as if someone wanted to pick on me. weird. Be everything. Be nothing.
White Warlock Posted March 23, 2004 Posted March 23, 2004 Ahh, psychotherapy time. Yeppers, definitely need to get to the bottom of that, lest it undermine any relationship you eventually do obtain. Four to eight sessions with a good therapist will help you to figure out what's going on. And before you squirm out of this idea, realize that a therapist is a professional, and if you don't utilize a professional, you're going to end up utilizing 'amateur' therapy (i.e., untrained friends and strangers)... which very likely will get you some very wrong answers, along with a small handful of right ones. Absolutely nothing wrong with seeking insight and advice from someone who's going to provide right answers. "When you are able to take the keys from my hand, you will be ready to drive." - Shaolin DMV TestIntro
kle1n Posted March 23, 2004 Author Posted March 23, 2004 yes your right but pheraps online therapy would be good, because it is quite embarrasing Be everything. Be nothing.
White Warlock Posted March 23, 2004 Posted March 23, 2004 hehe "When you are able to take the keys from my hand, you will be ready to drive." - Shaolin DMV TestIntro
monkeygirl Posted March 24, 2004 Posted March 24, 2004 yeah i think i am the brick type a girl waved at me today and i didnt react cause i thought she wanted to play some joke on me then my friends called me an idiot and i noticed how negative i think about women. must have been caused in my youth by some kind of incident or something. cause everytime i see a woman i get negative emotions the same as if someone wanted to pick on me. weird. Yeah, I've been realizing some of that myself lately...like any time a guy smiles at me (especially a popular one), I automatically figure he's probably laughing at me for something klutzy I did, or something he heard about me. It's a difficult mindset to break out of, but terribly easy to fall into. In a lot of ways, it's easier to think that way than to think positively and risk getting hurt. If you don't have high expectations, you can't be disappointed. Which is downright strange for me, since I don't approach anything else in life that way. Darned boys. 1st dan & Asst. Instructor TKD 2000-2003No matter the tune...if you can rock it, rock it hard.
kle1n Posted March 24, 2004 Author Posted March 24, 2004 hey i just now thought that i will forget what other people think about me and those weird phantasies where i imagine the girl laughing at me. and it works!!! try it monkey girl! i think much more positive about women now and I will try and pick up a girl this weekend Be everything. Be nothing.
supergroup7 Posted March 24, 2004 Posted March 24, 2004 Good luck,kle1n, at picking up a girl this weekend. Some things that psychologists have noticed in "what women do when they are attracted to a man": They will play with their hair. They will giggle easilly. They will lower their eyes, and then look up directly and straight into your eyes for a few moments, and then look away. They will imitate your movements. So if you are cross legged.. they will end up crosslegged. These are innate reactions that can signal a budding attraction. My spirit is never daunted by training, but sometimes my body begs to differ.
blitzcraig Posted March 24, 2004 Posted March 24, 2004 Hey man, power to you. Through out middle and high school i never aproached a girl unless I knew for sure she liked me....which I didnt find out very often. And my friends were like, "Craig, your a dork, if I was you I would have like 5 g/f and stuff". And if you do find a girl, dont get in over your head, you will not be able to make any since out of alot of them.-(read support in the general topics form)-thats what happened to me in a relationship, but now I figure, what do I have to lose? If a girl knows you like her so what, I finally got the courage to ask a girl in my class out and she said she was seeing some one but she would call me if things change. There is plenty of women and plenty of time, find the right one. Good luck!!! #1"The road to tae kwan leep is an endless road leading into the herizon, you must fully understand its ways". #2"but i wanna wax the walls with people now" #1"come ed gruberman, your first lesson is here.....boot to the head" #2"ouch, you kicked me in the head", #1"you learn quickly ed gruberman"
Ironberg Posted March 28, 2004 Posted March 28, 2004 I have a bit of the same problem. I'm not ugly, rather tall, but too slim. I think that most girls are intimidated by my sheer height. Do gals really like a guy who'se 6'4'' - I don't know. Also, Lately I've noticed a strange fettish with me and international gals at my highschool (lots from Asia, etc.). One that I've fallen for is from Chekoslovakia. She's the second girl in my life that I've asked out, and the second unsuccessful attempt (I'm 18 ). It's not that she doesn't like me, she does, but she's a bit reserved possibly because she knows that she is only going to stay in the US for the remainder of the semester. She also is constantly busy because of her homework, etc. Therefore, I help her study, etc, I'll escourt her to the gym, talk, etc. I know that she's gonna go to England for her Senior year of education, so I'm gonna be left in my desolate isolation again. "An enlightened man would offer a weary traveler a bed for the night, and invite him to share a civilized conversation over a bowl of... Cocoa Puffs."
Beka Posted March 28, 2004 Posted March 28, 2004 I have a bit of the same problem. I'm not ugly, rather tall, but too slim. I think that most girls are intimidated by my sheer height. Do gals really like a guy who'se 6'4'' - I don't know. Yes. I love 6'4''. My super ex (the one I was supposed to marry and have babies with) was 6'4''. The last guy I dated was also 6'4'', but he was unreliable and stupid. Anyway, 6'4'' is a good height (I'm 5'6''). Mmmm... tall men... okay, anyway, I'm beside the point here. and to kle1n: As a fellow 20 year old, I would have to say that you shouldn't let yourself be intimidated by women. Not to toot my own horn, but I have no lack of men around. However, quality is the issue. Most men seem to be intimidated by me ( "What? An opinionated, smart, dark haired, tattooed vixen who practices karate every day? I think I'll run for my life instead!"). It's a real concern. A confident (not arrogant!) man is the one we will like. If we can tell you're intimidated, it is a turn-off, and a little bit of an insult. It makes us grumpy. Be funny, be yourself. Funny and smart is the absolute BEST thing to be. You look just fine in your picture, so we know that's not something you really need to work on. Although style is something to think about. I am personally very attracted to a man who isn't afraid to express himself, and clothing is one of the ways to do that. Just go out, don't be afraid to befriend us. Most times, if we can tell we're being hit on, unless we're looking for a one-time thing, we're usually quite turned off. Talk to a woman like she's someone you already know and don't need to impress. We can smell desperation. If you don't worry about it, it will come a lot faster. Have an open attitude about women. We come in all shapes and sizes, we have different opinions, theories, hobbies, and means of communication. Stay away from the dirzy bimbos who offer nothing by way of substance. Sure, they look good now, but you'll drive yourself crazy forming a meaningful relationship with one of them (not that I'm trying to lure anyone to the oddball-girl team or anything...). But is a relationship even what you're going for? That's my bit of advice for now. Just relax, be yourself, and really, I mean it, everything will fall into place. Sometimes we don't date because we have no time for it, there are other more important things in our lives (recently I have broken up with men who didn't understand my dedication to school and karate, and that wasn't going to work). Maybe that's where you're at but you feel like you *should* be dating the laydeez. However, like with drugs, peer pressure is bad I just thought I'd ramble on a bit. If you need anything else, feel free to send me a private message or something. Take care and good luck.
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