kle1n Posted March 21, 2004 Posted March 21, 2004 Hi, I am 20 this September and I have just noticed that I have never had a girlfriend. I have not even kissed a girl and I am not ugly. What am I doing wrong? this is my picture: http://www.ilove.de/storage/view/de/de/000/000/83/09/830996_main_b.jpg Pheraps I am just the type who will never have a girlfriend. That would be not very good though Be everything. Be nothing.
monkeygirl Posted March 22, 2004 Posted March 22, 2004 Believe it or not, you're not alone. There are a lot of people out there who don't enter relationships until their mid-20's or later. When you're meant to find someone, you will. I know it can be discouraging...at nearly 17 years old, I'm in the same boat. Just try not to let it get you down, and put yourself out there. Try new things and meet new people...put your best foot forward, and be yourself with as much confidence as you can muster. Those are my tips to you, but seeing as how I haven't had much success either, you'll have to take it with a grain of salt. Good luck! 1st dan & Asst. Instructor TKD 2000-2003No matter the tune...if you can rock it, rock it hard.
The Saint Posted March 22, 2004 Posted March 22, 2004 Just be confident( and yourself)....Being Confident is the best way to meet new girls. I've alawys met my past girl friends through friends. Just be yourself and be confident and you wil find someone. "Pain is the best instructor, but no one wants to go to his class." Choi, Hong Hi ITF Founder
White Warlock Posted March 22, 2004 Posted March 22, 2004 Do make the differentiation between 'confident' and 'cocky.' Confidence is important, although i would recommend an emphasis on just being yourself. Also, if you don't already have a sense of humor, buy one at Sears. They are an essential element for 'breaking the ice' with just about anyone, but especially a woman. Men and women have it different in this society, even now. Women can stand there and wink at someone she's interested in and the man will come over. However, men must learn to be assertive (make the clear distinction here... assertive, NOT aggressive) and to approach a woman they are interested in. Don't be afraid to compliment a woman, but be sincere. Just to cover this... there's no rush. It is likely you don't have a woman in your life right now out of a subconscious choice. Possibly you realize that you will commit and haven't met anyone you wanted to commit to, or that you do not have your personal and/or business goals at a point where you feel that a relationship won't dramatically disrupt them. Have a little bit of confidence in yourself, by way of recognizing that you have what i like to refer to as a 'superconsciousness.' A thought process that guides you through the various events in your life, to the path you have 'superconsciously' decided is your fate. Allow it to play through, unless you realize that it is a self-destructive path. "When you are able to take the keys from my hand, you will be ready to drive." - Shaolin DMV TestIntro
kle1n Posted March 22, 2004 Author Posted March 22, 2004 Yeah confidence is good. My problem is though that i dont see why i should be running after women. I mean women want men too, i think they should show it a little more. dont u guys think so? Be everything. Be nothing.
Northren Ogre Posted March 22, 2004 Posted March 22, 2004 So they should be chasing you? Me thinks we've discovered your problem. http://prkickboxing.tripod.com
monkeygirl Posted March 22, 2004 Posted March 22, 2004 Women can stand there and wink at someone she's interested in and the man will come over. Really? I must have missed that winking class... 1st dan & Asst. Instructor TKD 2000-2003No matter the tune...if you can rock it, rock it hard.
White Warlock Posted March 23, 2004 Posted March 23, 2004 Really? I must have missed that winking class... Hehe. The wink, of course, was just a metaphor. Many men will take just about any sign that your interested, even make up a few just to give themselves the confidence they need to make the initial approach. But, a man either lacking sufficient confidence, motivation, or a clue... those you're going to have to throw a brick at. My problem is though that i dont see why i should be running after women. I mean women want men too, i think they should show it a little more. dont u guys think so?Methinks a brick is required for this one. "When you are able to take the keys from my hand, you will be ready to drive." - Shaolin DMV TestIntro
Red J Posted March 23, 2004 Posted March 23, 2004 even make up a few just to give themselves the confidence they need to make the initial approach. This has some merit. You need to meet some people. Make a goal to talk to three new women a day. Even if all you do is say hi and walk away. The more you interact with people the easier it becomes. Whatever you do, do not use any of the advice from this thread that I dug up from the archives... http://www.karateforums.com/viewtopic.php?t=4835 Good luck. I had to lose my mind to come to my senses.
ZR440 Posted March 23, 2004 Posted March 23, 2004 He'll want to use a brick on himself when he starts trying to figure out women. I've used so many that I've joined the National Bricklayers Union just to get discounts at the lumber yard. It's happy hour somewhere in the world.
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