Trapped On a Bus

[Goju_boi]

Like thaiboxerken said, I thing he should just try hooking upwith her ,because it seems that she might like him and thats the only way she knows of getting his attention

[DN]

hummm, while his self control is astounding, one should always remember not to be the victim or tolerate abuse.... it often leads to worse treatment. I think someone should look into that girl a bit more and make sure she herself is not being abused in some way, nearly all bullies are victims of some kind of mistreatment.

[Goju_boi]

"nearly all bullies are victims of some kind of mistreatment"

Why do you say that?

[CagedWarrior]

I'm not advocating the hospitalizing of a little girl or anything... but if someone, anyone, physically assaults me and actually poses a threat, I take them out if I have to. I don't care if the person has different gentalia than I have. If they don't pose a real threat, I'd just physically restrain them- with pain if they make it necessary. Am I supposed to be sorry about that? No one but guys way bigger than me, or with a bunch of friends, or weapon(s), will get to hit me with a golden pass.

[DN]

"nearly all bullies are victims of some kind of mistreatment"

Why do you say that?

It's classic psychology, most bullies were bullied at some point in their life.

By allowing the girl to get away with what she did, L was allowing himself to become a victim. I'm not saying he should have hit her, just that ignoring it in most cases will only make a bully try harder (which is what happend).

[Goju_boi]

So should this kid just go smack her upside the head or something?

[DN]

I'm not saying he should have hit her, just that ignoring it in most cases will only make a bully try harder (which is what happend).

No!!, its not an easy situation to be in, I think that the best line to take would be not to take any crap in the first place (once again I dont mean hit her) but once you allow the teasing/abuse to start you have created a precedent for it to continue.

Not being there I can't say for sure but it sounds like possibly physically putting back in her seat with a few harsh words might have gone a long way??

[White Warlock]

physical contact of such a nature would very likely have escalated the scene. Also, it needs to be considered, and so far it hasn't, the social impact of confronting a female when you are a male.

And with, another story:

When i was 12 years old, my brother's friend was roughhousing with me in the middle of the schoolyard. Me being pretty tiny at the time, some girl thought he was abusing me, so she came over and kicked him in the leg and yelled at him. He got angry and grabbed her. Big mistake...

In a matter of seconds, the entire... and i emphasize this... the entire schoolyard came swarming in. It was all we could do to protect my friend as we slowly moved toward the class' building. A few instructors came out of the building, saw the scene, and went right back in... not wanting to be a casualty of mob mentality.

I have other similar stories. The point here is, a guy striking or getting physical with a woman is not readily accepted. In fact, at the k-12 levels of school, it could very well turn into a mob scene. A lot of guys, regardless of whether a girl is right or wrong, want to play the role of knight in shining armor. Add to that the gender comraderie that women/girls have, and you are asking for a world of hurt if you strike, or even 'grab,' a female in a public setting. Worse is, many females know this and exploit it.

No, i think what the boy did was appropriate. A difficult choice, but appropriate. It is not merely the adversary you must consider, but the scene, the spectators, and the consequences.

[Goju_boi]

Maybe he should just consider riding a bike to school

[Why_Worry]

Good story. Reminds me of somethings at school. Your son is actually a role model in some ways to me now because of the self control and patience he had. He must be very wise and kind (and probably friendly ((otherwise he probably would have hit them a long time ago)) too) if he was that patient with that much self control.