ESA-Shotokan Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 Just be thankful for the opportunity to get out and meet some new people. Falling in love and being in love is great but meeting a new hotty for the first time is even greater! She has said her piece and made her bed, so you are not going to be in it - there is bound to be a better bed elsewhere! Life is just too short to ponder what if's with one person. Just don't go back as she will (may) do it again and totally wreck your head. There's nothing wrong with feeling sad and lonely and all that but just think of the fun your are missing out on while moaping about.
blitzcraig Posted March 4, 2004 Author Posted March 4, 2004 Good points ESA. I was at the dumb stage a few days back when it actually happened but now im cool. It just really jacked with my head that she broke up w/me once and when we got back together she said she was never gonna screw stuff up again...well, she did. But yea, im looking forward to who the next will be....that part is always fun...first date...kiss...and so on. #1"The road to tae kwan leep is an endless road leading into the herizon, you must fully understand its ways". #2"but i wanna wax the walls with people now" #1"come ed gruberman, your first lesson is here.....boot to the head" #2"ouch, you kicked me in the head", #1"you learn quickly ed gruberman"
delta1 Posted March 4, 2004 Posted March 4, 2004 Just the 2 days afterwards sucked. ... I went over to her house last night and we just talked and had fun like friends If you can do that, trust me, you didn't have it bad! I remember meeting one girl about a week after we broke up. She touched my hand, and I swear, I nearly went through a cinder block wall! I didn't know whether to melt or destroy the building (it took a lot of self control- and some confusion, but I just stood there like an idiot). A couple of months later I drove past her house with some friends (actually, one of them was driving- I'd been avoiding the area), and someone elses car was parked out front. I swear I could have killed right then (figuratively speaking), but that is what friends are for. They found out later that it was her cousin, so I'd have made a real (!) out of myself if I'd have done anything. But, I eventually got over it. So, when it really happens, you'll survive that just like the rest of us. But it will take a lot more than 2 days. Freedom isn't free!
ramymensa Posted March 5, 2004 Posted March 5, 2004 You'll be just fine. When it gets harder, just think of something i used to tell myself after such and experience. NOBODY IN THIS WORLD DEERVES YOUR TEARS AND SUFFERING. It's kinda harsh, but it helps. For my part, I was in an almost 3 years relationship. He wanted to marry, I wasn't prepared. We broke up. The end of the story. He gor married with a woman after 5 months of dating. The divorced after half an year. Nasty divorce Now he calls me to be friends. Guess he'd like to be together agai. Out of the question. Now I'm with a man (Mr.Perfect ). Older than me with 11 years, loves me, love him etc. If he would ask me to marry him, I'd say yes without a blink. He seems to be the right choise. In your case, it wasn't the right one. In some time there will come another woman and she'll be prepared for the gig step. You're young and have all the life in front of you. Good luck and be strong World Shotokan Karate
blitzcraig Posted March 5, 2004 Author Posted March 5, 2004 Yea, it really wouldnt bother me but a month and a half ago I thought I would be engaged right now to the best g/f I ever had....but, now im not even with her. But im trying to move on....just slow and shy though. #1"The road to tae kwan leep is an endless road leading into the herizon, you must fully understand its ways". #2"but i wanna wax the walls with people now" #1"come ed gruberman, your first lesson is here.....boot to the head" #2"ouch, you kicked me in the head", #1"you learn quickly ed gruberman"
ESA-Shotokan Posted March 6, 2004 Posted March 6, 2004 Don't worry...I know exactly what you mean. I myself am haunted by a "true love" I once had - she really was my everything. I'd like to tell you these feelings go away but they don't; unless you meet a very special person who can erase all such memories... You DO get over it but you never ever forget that particular person - I know I never will. I barely think about her now but every now and then, she is there in my mind and I am lost in the memory of what I once had! Try to look on such things as a "good" memory and then move on. I can't wave a magic want to take away the pain but you will get over it...I promise you. Be strong.
blitzcraig Posted March 9, 2004 Author Posted March 9, 2004 Yea, I understand what you are saying ESA. She was really the first "true love". I know I wont be able to 100% forget her because we went through and did alot together but I do think that eventually if I can find someone else and just keep the ex as a friend...then thats all i will see her as. #1"The road to tae kwan leep is an endless road leading into the herizon, you must fully understand its ways". #2"but i wanna wax the walls with people now" #1"come ed gruberman, your first lesson is here.....boot to the head" #2"ouch, you kicked me in the head", #1"you learn quickly ed gruberman"
wrestlingkaratechamp Posted March 13, 2004 Posted March 13, 2004 lol--You're only 20 dude, 2 years older than me, live you life, see the world, don't be locked down in marriage.
The Saint Posted March 19, 2004 Posted March 19, 2004 wow, first things fisrt your young, be nice to her and move on. (to be blunt) When I was 20, I wanted to party as hard as I could all the time with no regrets. I have met lots of 30 yaer old women that don't want to get married, so don't take it personally. Travel across the country or do something that being married won't allow you to do easy. Your a young guy and life can be crapy but if you can move on and enjoy your time you may find someone else that has all of her qualities and some more things too. "Pain is the best instructor, but no one wants to go to his class." Choi, Hong Hi ITF Founder
blitzcraig Posted March 22, 2004 Author Posted March 22, 2004 Yea, im pretty much over it but on occasion it haunts me. Im just mad now cuz she asked me if there is anything she could do and I said at least continue being my friend cuz I dont want to lose that too. well, she hasnt called in 2 weeks I called her 2 times and went to give her back some movies and she was kinda rude to me so im thinking about asking her if she still wants to be my friend and if not I can say screw it and move on 100%. Im starting to look forward to the next one....nothing to serious though #1"The road to tae kwan leep is an endless road leading into the herizon, you must fully understand its ways". #2"but i wanna wax the walls with people now" #1"come ed gruberman, your first lesson is here.....boot to the head" #2"ouch, you kicked me in the head", #1"you learn quickly ed gruberman"
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