I've recently re-evaluated my position on what type of practical martial art I want to pursue. I've always preferred using grappling arts, for 2 reasons; it doesn't rely on my own strength, and it's considered less violent. But in my past dojo experiences, grappling, that is, attacking joints, is more violent then striking, because with the former, it's much more likely to break bones and to cause serous injury. Whereas with strikes, except for styles like boxing, the strikes aren't meant to be about just bludgeoning your attacker to a pulp, just into submission. But ofcourse there's situations where grappling is the only recourse, so could anyone offer me some advice on what style that uses strikes in a non bludgeoning way, which also offers at least some grappling skills? Thanks.