Hapkido D

Take Hapkido and buy a cane.

I would hope, for them, that he didn't find out.

Your Quote: I feel that if I perform as my best, and the master sees something is wrong with my current best, he/she can correct my mistakes. The teacher will "see" your prior abilities. You cannot hide them.

In my opinion, martial arts is the ability to be combative combined with the mental restraint to know when to fight. It is combative by design, but is also a way of life.