I agree with Aodham here. The question really depends on the circumstance/situation/and dojo. To me, martial arts was more about growing your soul - the punches and kicking empowered you with a sense of confidence/capability/ and a relative feeling of safety ("I can take care of myself and my loved ones IF the occassion arises). Then it also teaches the humbleness, politeness, integrity, etc. But to me, a larger portion of it comes from building the self-confidence - and one of the best ways to do that is to feel safe/capable/and like I mentioned above confident. Just my $0.02 BullsEye