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Well its a system he blended from several but primary influence is Shorin Ryu. ~Lynn What's to stop you 'blending' things a little further and creating your own school? Actually I have already started working on my own curriculum.. But I still have much to learn before I leave the nest and fly on my own..

Thank you sensei8 for your eloquently written response. You are exactly right, sometimes you need that slap upside the head to see things clearer. While I never responded to their jabs on my own posts, I did blocked them and things are already better on the Facebook front. I would deactivate my account but I do use it for business so I can't. Now that some time has past, I have the fire growing inside as it once did. They can't stop me. I will return next week on a student level, helping my dojo mates where I can. That does take the pressure off that's for sure! JR 137, your right, I have no recourse when it come to the wife. I told my sensie months ago that I felt she will be holding me back from any involvement with future activities and responsibilities. And everything I said came true. That's perfectly ok, I am there to learn, nothing more and I am find with that. Thanks again everyone, I appreciate all of you! ~Lynn

Well its a system he blended from several but primary influence is Shorin Ryu. ~Lynn

Thank you DWx, yes I agree, and will stick it out, step back and do my best to ignore the childish behaviors. I intend to soak up every bit I can, attend some seminars I have registered for, attend some tournaments to test my skills and continue to practice, study hard and practice some more! Thanks again! ~lynn

Thank you all for your time, I appreciate your willingness to read and respond with your thoughts. Here is a response for each or you: Bulltahr: You are right, they wont likely realize it until its too late, and then they still likely wont "get" it. Thanks for your input! Nidan Melbourne: We currently have about 100 students. Regarding the owner's wife, I am not without fault. I have done things unintentional but I have apologized and corrected any error. Over time it seems I can't do right by her. Others can do no wrong.. No apologies from her at all. But it is what it is. Thanks for your insight. Kusatare: Wise words, thank you. Teaching is not my only purpose for practicing martial arts. But I do feel the need to give back to the kids and adults in our community. Teaching them how to do a proper kick or application of a kata is one thing but giving them the confidence and other empowering qualities is very important to me.. I wish someone did that for me a a child. Singularity 6: I am leaning towards staying and limiting my involvement, stepping back from instructing and just being a student getting as much as I can out of it. Thank you. Alan Armstrong: Great advice, just needed to hear it! Thank you! Again thanks everyone, just needed some clarity.

Hello readers, I come to seek your advice and opinions on a martial arts matter that has me pretty upset. I have been a practitioner for almost 4 years now with my anniversary next month. It has really impacted my life in a good way. Sadly, this may all be ending. I have tried sticking it out this past year but there has been no resolution to the issues that have arisen. I will try to keep this from becoming a book, if clarification is needed just ask. For the last year things have gone downhill. Little by little things were being taken away from me, such as certain responsibilities, exclusion from conversations among our instructor group as well as not being called upon for help with events. There has been an accumulation of events that it would turn into a long post, not sure how to simplify but these are the two biggest issues right now: 1.After a year and a half having my own day classes ( another instructor has their own as well) the owner leaves his day job and starts attending and helping with the claim that he has no intention of taking our classes over. (ok that’s understandable) . 6 months later neither one of us has a class, we are now on the sideline assisting. Students we have brought up through the ranks from white belts, poof gone. I could barely hold it together that first day of not being their instructor. That was probably the worst day ever in my journey. We had no reprimands on our performance, only good things to say about our instructing. The owner felt it was not worth paying us to teach when he plans to be there and teach also. I can understand to a point. 2. There is a fellow instructor I feel has had it in for me from the get go. I came up through fairly quick actually. Was there 4 nights a week, for three classes each night for years. I took my training seriously, and practiced at home religiously and it paid off. I think that has caused the rift there. For the last year I have been getting snide comments, jabs on Facebook, and over the last year she has really buddied up with the owner’s wife and has her now doing the same crap. )The wife is half owner but isn't a practitioner). For these two to be such advocates against bullying, and showing compassion and respect, I find their behavior hypocritical. I am to the point I don’t want to go back to class. I have informed my sensei ( owner) of the problems and nothing. I took 2 weeks off to clear my mind ( I have never taken time off before), the jabs on facebook continue. I have had to restrict them so they can’t see my posts. My questions, if I leave, there is no place teaching traditional martial arts for 30+ miles. My goals were to have my own school one day, but if I leave there goes everything. I have also started competing, how can I continue that on my own? Even if I traveled to another, I would have to start over. If thats the case then I will learn something different. Do I stay and not give them the satisfaction, but endure the drama? It just reminds me of being bullied as a kid, I thought I left this crap behind me when I left grade school.. I don’t want to let down my former students or those in the other classes that I work with if I quit. I don’t want to be a sole practitioner stuck at 2nd degree for the rest of my life… but it sucks to be somewhere you no longer feel welcome.. Please help, I have tried looking at it from all angles, its all just a mess in my mind. None of my friends know all this cause I didn't want to put the school in a bad light, but I need some words of wisdom. Thanks ~Lynn

Thank y'all for the welcome!

Thank you sir for the welcome, the system is mixed, but primarily influence is Shorin ryu. I also study Gracie jiu jitsu. I have also studied Combat Hapkido but my instructor stopped teaching it... I got as far as green belt..

Howdy, I am new here too!

Well its been a long time since I have been hanging out in a forum but thought it would be a great place to gain some insight and advice on some things. As well as learn, I love to learn! I have been a practitioner of a traditional style for almost 4 years now. Decided to try a little competing last weekend to step out my comfort zone which was pretty cool. Not many to compete with at my age ( 40 something isn't old!) but it was fun! Looking forward to more! I'm gonna settle in and check out some threads and get acquainted.