Thanks everybody....you are really making feel welcome here karatekid, I live in new york city...where there is like 5 million dojos..lol..that's why its been difficult to tell the good from the bad.. and that term McDojo is hilarious...that's exactly what they seem to be... KickChick, I will definitely look into those links..thanks so much...and age 33..you made me feel so much better Doug, thanks for the advice...I basically want to work on me..my strength, fitness, balance, things like that...then I can concentrate more on the self-defense aspects...If I can find a discipline where I can do this all together that would be kool... you gotta be quicker on the draw G95 lol....thanks for replying and I need all the help I can get lol... thanks everyone...